here i go with my complaints of the day.

i am happily married; we have one kid and one on the way.

in the past 3 years we were very much involved in a group of friends. some single, some married, etc. (we are not anymore now!)
there were 2 single women that i really came to care about because, i felt they were really nice people and yet didnt understand why they were single. i have invited one of the women call her woman A to my home on countless basis. woman A is best friends with woman B. woman B is very nice, but although i felt compassion to her as a friend, i dont think she saw me like that.

these women has given us generous gifts in the past whenever we invite them to our occassions.

incident 1:
woman B bought a house and invited us over, and because we have never given her a gift before, i thought we should give her painting; which we did; when she send an email msg to thank us, she only send the email to my dh and forgot to include me in the email address, but she mentioned me in the "hello bla and bla".

incident 2:
during the soccer world cup, we got invited to a friends house to watch the game and also to welcome their new arrival. we brought our dd with us. i was holding our dd while dh watch the game in the living room; i came to the living room unannouced and found woman B sitting comfortably on the floor but inbetween my dh's legs. immediately she saw me, she jumped to the sofa as if she has seen a ghost.  i found it REALLY weird and uncomfortable!

incident 3:
ok after the game everyone came to the backyard and we announced we were taking a family trip; woman B approached me and said she would like to join us on our family trip. which i found really weird because i wasnt best friends with her;

dh and i were discussing all of these incidents; he thought i should let go of incident 1 as he thinks woman B forgot!

on incidents 2 and 3, he claimed he doesnt remember; i agree with him not remembering incidents 2 because when i came to the room he was very fixated on the game as his team was loosing! on incidents 3, he found it to be weird!

three weeks ago we met with some friends who are also part of the group; and the dw asked me if i have spoken to woman B lately; the funny thing is, ever since my dh and i have known woman B, i have never called her to chat; like i said, she seems nice when we meet in the group, but i always feel she never saw me as a friend, if at all, with all the incidents i described she looks like she was coming unto my dh.

like take for instance last night, i mentioned i almost told all of the above incidents of woman B to the rest of the group, dh thought there was no need; he claims he doesnt feel comfortable for me to say stuff like this to everyone, not that he is protecting woman B; the reason is he doesnt want his name to be part of a rumour, even though he knows he is innocent, and did nothing wrong!

so my question is, do you think dh never knew woman B was coming unto him like he claims? or he gave hints and signs to woman B for her to come unto him as in he is equally guilty and he is lying?

sorry the msg got long.

thanks
abena

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