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can i date a married man he told me he crazy for me and doesnt care if his wife knows

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can i date a married man he told me he crazy for me and doesnt care if his wife knows

Expert Post Viewd: 207 Posted: 1/30/08 4:52 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Intimacy problems when pregnant Kinda personal (re: husband)

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So I think my DH and I are having intimacy problems during pregnancy Last 2 out of 3 times we tried to be frisky which isn't often now adays he stopped and made some excuse of why (uncomfortable too hot phone ringing at beginning distracted him too much etc ) We had only had this happen maybe 2X in our entire marriage before I got pregnant I am terrified after 9 years of marriage he is beginning to lose attraction to me Or is this just a pregnancy thing This is the first time I've even been pregnant and I am feeling ugly rejected and worried he is falling out of love with me Has anyone else had similar experiences Do men get weird during pregnancy What could be causing the problem

I've tried talking to him about it and he's not worried he's going to hurt the babies Mostly he makes up a bunch of excuses why for "that" time he did say he is having some thoughts of me being a 'mother' and not his wife/plaything which depresses me I don't want us to not be intimate the rest of our lives

I mean if it were becaue he isn't attracted right now because my breasts have gotten ginormous or the extra weight I'd almost feel better because those things will go away after this mental thing with us starting and him not being able to finish I know shouldn't bother me but I feel so worried I'm going to lose him and rejected

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 6/23/08 7:40 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Why is spying right

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I broke trust in our 6 year relationship when I lied about still texting a friend (which is a boy) after being asked He had already known the answer because he had been checking my phone records Last week I found a sytem set up in our basement that was recording all of our house phone calls He also checks all my emails and phone records constantly His excuse is that I have to build his trust back and he has every right to do this Is this right

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 6/13/08 1:57 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Never had an orgasm

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Hi I am 24 years old and I am sexualy active since 20 I had 3 guys so far with two previous I slept only one time each but now I am in loving relationship I am expecting my first baby and my partner and I are planing on getting married I love him to death and I can't imagine my life with nobady else but there is one problem I NEVER HAD AN ORGASM WITH HIM With other guys also not but with him I am bearly even "wet" He thinks that I am having orgasm almost every single time because I am pretending but I would like to have one at least It is imposible for me to get "horny" sometimes even And he is realy tring thats why I am pretending but I feel like something is missing How is it that I can make myself come in 4 min and with himI can't in 20 min And please don't tell me to talk to him because I can't I am too shy and besides I would die if he would found out that I was lying to him about having orgasm PLEASE HELP

Expert Post Viewd: 314 Posted: 11/15/07 5:50 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

feelings toward my fiance

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I have been with my mate for a year and a half I love him to deathbut now I am having feelings that I dont want to be with him Im 6 months pregnant and its like he is starting to disgust me He is not cheating but I dont know why i am having these feelings Whats wrong

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 5/14/08 3:18 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

I CAN'T ENJOY SEX

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textHi i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half we have a 3 month old baby girl the problem is that when i was 7 months pregnant i caught him watching porn and that really hurt me i became obsesive and thought from then on that every time i couldnt have sex with him he would watch it again after i had my baby my sex drive decreased a lot i am 19 years old and i worry if this is normal i try really hard to enjoy sex with him but i just cant concentrate the image when i caught him always comes to my mind i really wanna work this out i want us to be a happy family i just dont know how to approach him on that i also wonder if it is because he wants to do what he saw on that porn and i definitely dont like that and every time he tries to penetrate me it hurts :tissue: what should i do please help me

Expert Post Viewd: 1364 Posted: 5/8/07 6:13 pm Posted by: Replies: 7

oral sex

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my husband the 1 time we made love he gave me oral sex then after he never did when we use to amke love i use to doit all the time i knew it made him feel good but does he thinks about how i feel

Expert Post Viewd: 2 Posted: 4/26/08 10:29 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

my husband

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Hi i hope you could help me me and my husband been together for 2 years this is our 1 baby together his 38 im 26 years old his a good man and works hard that i know at 1 everything was ok but then i got big and he said that he could do anything bad to the baby i ask him its cause im fat he said no i also ask him if in his 1 marrege he was the same way he said no that he was young and really didnt care i tell him everyday but theres no change i was thinking to leave the house i just dont know what to do please help me

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 4/26/08 10:13 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

No sex

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Hello Im 17 weeks along and have absolutely no sex drive with my partner Before I found out I was pregnant I was always wanting sex and it was great sex too But since finding out Im expecting I don't even want sex anymore It drives my boyfriend crazy and I feel bad because I don't ever want it Is there something wrong with me Is there anyway i can change this

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 4/26/08 2:02 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

help

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my boyfriend r x r whatwver he says he is today Always talked about having a baby here i am 9weeks and hes saying hes not IN love with me any more BUT he whants to be around him in his life and to live right down the rode from him ok he loves me he loves the baby he want to help me but hes also running HELP what is wrong

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 4/18/08 11:19 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

dont know what to do

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i just want some opinions on what to do my fiancee and i dont have sex barely anymore we had our 3rd child july of 2007 and he still doesnt want to have sex like we used to he will be 38 in august and i will be 30 in september my sex drive is very high right now he wont have sex with me but he will constantly accuse me of sleeping around i really dont know what to do ive tried to spice things up in the bedroom but it doesnt work he says that thats all i think about well i dont think so when i want it he dont when he does want it then its like i have to be ready please help with some opinions on what to do and how to possibly fix this

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 4/16/08 9:39 am Posted by: Replies: 0

my husband and I

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My husband and I were split up for almost a year We were seeing other people during this time I found out that I was pregnant around the first of August At the time that I got pregnant I never thought that we would get back together We decided to give our marriage another try in January He said that it would take him a while to get used to the fact that I am pregnant by someone else I have about a week left before the baby is due My husband has been acting like nothing is happening I really want our marriage to work and I want him to except the baby but I am not so sure that he is going to do that What should I do Everytime I try to talk to him he won't say anything

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 3/27/08 9:02 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Worried Hubby

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My husband is a fantastic father loves to play with out 7 month old and our older boys from my previos marriage The problem is when baby cries he takes it personally and thinks the baby just wants to be with me He says he is useless at changing his diaper and dressing him and that baby prefers me to do it we live in the US and we are English so I have had no family helping me here This means I do everything for the baby with no help and not much of a break at any point He plays with him when he wants playing with and there are plenty of cuddles and love but when baby is a little grumpy he comes straight back to Mummy I could count the diaper changes he has made on my two hands and I need him to understand that if he doesnt help in the day to day things with baby then of course is going to want me to do it I am the only adult he sees 24/7 Not to mention that he works away for weeks at a time now and so its just me and the children I have no social life what so ever and no family to call on when I get physically worn out I have tr to get this through to hiim but I fail what am I doing wrong

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 3/26/08 2:22 am Posted by: Replies: 0

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Hi I have a questions Me and my boyfriend have datedoff and on for 5years We had taken a split and were just roomates for about 6 months He always promised me he cared but was scared to make a commitment Well a huge fight kinda cause an oops LOL We are now expecting our 1st child together Which ofcourse put us back together He acts happy and really acts like he wants to try and make something work The sex life is better than it has been in a realy long time HE isnt as stressed as he has been in a while and we dont argue as much Could this be a good sign in our relationship Should I jump into this with out hestitation or ease into this I reall y want us to be together We have a good life and I believe with all iof me we are soul mates I guess my question is what is yoru opinion or can you igve soem advice to helpmake it a little easier and better

Expert Post Viewd: 0 Posted: 3/21/08 5:42 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Is this real or is there actual hope

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Hi I have a questions Me and my boyfriend have datedoff and on for 5years We had taken a split and were just roomates for about 6 months He always promised me he cared but was scared to make a commitment Well a huge fight kinda cause an oops LOL We are now expecting our 1st child together Which ofcourse put us back together He acts happy and really acts like he wants to try and make something work The sex life is better than it has been in a realy long time HE isnt as stressed as he has been in a while and we dont argue as much Could this be a good sign in our relationship Should I jump into this with out hestitation or ease into this I reall y want us to be together We have a good life and I believe with all iof me we are soul mates I guess my question is what is yoru opinion or can you igve soem advice to helpmake it a little easier and better

Expert Post Viewd: 0 Posted: 3/21/08 5:42 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

feelings for another

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I am in a relationship with my childrens father but lately I feel he doesn't appriciate me or love me We fight over supid stuff all he time now He is 8 years older than me I started to talk to another man but nothing going on He is 2 years younger I dont believe in cheating on the one you love But I will admit I have feelings for this other man I like talking to him and he respects me Am I wrong for having feelings for a man who I am not involved with What do I do Please help me

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 3/13/08 6:42 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

hi sex drive

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ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years and i have a high sex drive but he tells me im too aggressive and he said it turns him off plus he said we should space the sex or it will get boring but what about my needs what am i suppose to do im always in need

Expert Post Viewd: 224 Posted: 3/12/08 4:38 am Posted by: Replies: 0

Attitude change in husband after baby

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Hi I have a beautiful 2 week old son that my husband and I are crazy about However for the past week my husband has been giving me an attitude doesn't communicate with me doesn't kiss me and leaves for work without saying anything It hurts and it is frustrating since I don't understand why he is doing this He does kiss the baby and my 8 year old daughter and gives them love Also he doesn't like it that much that I'm breast feeding Before the baby he was affectionate and loving now it seems that he doesn't care about me

Expert Post Viewd: 185 Posted: 3/7/08 9:28 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

less sex

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Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years now i am older than him by4 years i am 32 now and he seems not to be sexually active when i asked him why he told me he likes to miss it but what about me i have a high sex drive

Expert Post Viewd: 172 Posted: 3/6/08 1:52 am Posted by: Replies: 0

Jeolousy

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My husband and I have been married for 10 year and expecting our 3rd baby I love him alot but I am very jeolous Girls at his work talk to him and give him things well just one girl Should I worry she is supposed to be married But she is always offering him rides taking him to lunch and giving him little things Am I over exagerating

Expert Post Viewd: 115 Posted: 3/5/08 8:55 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

cheating

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I have been married for 3 5 years i really love him but i cant shake the feeling of him cheating and this is really affecting us that we talk about divorcs what is wrong with me

Expert Post Viewd: 230 Posted: 2/9/08 9:36 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

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My husband sleeps about 3 days in a row only to get up to go to the bathroom and eat he is EXTREMELY CRABBY and MEAN when he is up he does this about every 1 to 2 months It is so hard to be around him I have a 16 year old daughter from a previous relationship and a 6 week old baby He seems normal on the days he is not doing this Is he bipolar On a side note he has herpes and gets them on his lower back when he gets them or right before getting them he gets this way could this be the cause of this somehow NOTHING changes his mood not even our 6 week old baby girl :(

Expert Post Viewd: 179 Posted: 2/9/08 6:14 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

scared of sex

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Hi Angela

My husband and I have been married 3 years and for the past 2 have been trying to conceive We have had two back to back pregnancies that have both ended in miscarriage resulting in 3 D&Cs (1st D&C failed and very painful) After the 1st miscarriage we waited about 3 weeks to have sex again which ended up being very painful in my cervix (2 D&Cs in 3 days) We waited another 1 5 weeks and tried again Still very painful Eventually it stopped hurting and we went on to conceive our 2nd pregnancy The D&C for that miscarriage took place about 5 weeks ago We have started resuming sex again but I've noticed several things 1) my sex drive has lowered considerably It used to be me that was always talking my husband into sex since my drive was higher now he's lucky if he can get me in the mood It's not that I don't love him but that my sex drive is gone Several times I've "given in" to him because I'd turned him down several days in a row and it's not that I hate sex During sex I find myself waiting for him to finish and not really getting into it although still feigning arousal 2) I find myself saying "ouch" when it doesn't really hurt I feel like Im saying "ouch" almost in anticipation of pain but not actual pain Almost like I have cervical pain skittishness

My husband and I have discussed everything I've written here (our relationship is like that) and he says that perhaps the 2 miscarriages have turned me off to sex That I am relating all the pain Ive gone through from multiple surgeries down there to the act of sex in my mind I do miss my sex drive as it was a fiery part of my personality in our marriage Now Im starting to feel like a roommate to someone I love cos I never want it

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Expert Post Viewd: 201 Posted: 1/31/08 6:39 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Am I Wrong

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Ok after months of going through this I feel like I have to ask somebody that has a background in this type of thing Iam a 27 year old male with a wife of the same age and a son who is 19 months We have been together for ten years My wife is trying to get a book published and at the same time takes care of our son while I am at work When I get home from work I take over the little one along with the chores around the house (dishwashing cleaning etc) so she can focus on her work The problem is that even after the little one has gone down permanently for the night she will continue to work until I finally give up and go to sleep We have sex on average maybe twice a month if I'm lucky If I bring it to her attention that I am wanting her or needing her more often then I am being unreasonable and don't respect that she is working on her career If I sit back and don't bring it up then I am lucky if we are intimate once a month I have tried to calmly explain that I'm feeling a little neglected not only because of this but also for the fact that the only conversation that she will 100 participate in is about what she is doing I realize that she is busy but am I wrong for thinking that even if you are a writer and that is your occupation it's still a good idea to "come home" from your work once in a while

Now I have done a lot of research on the general average of sexual frequency between couples with children For the most part (realizing that is truly different from person to person) the national average seems to be in the neighborhood of about 1 2 times a week I would cut off my left arm at this point for 1 2 times a week I have expressed to her that yes men have needs but she will turn it back onto me that I am not respecting what she is doing I would never ask the question; are we normal because normal is a very relative term but at this point I'm doubting myself Am I being unreasonable I don't ask her to drop everything that she is doing when I come through the door I have supported her for ten years so she could persue her dream Never asked her to work while we struggled to pay bills and keep food on the table Because of that I feel I do respect what she is doing I am just asking for a little attention here and there

Should I just get over it Expressing my feelings to her just seems to make things worse So what do I do Give up

Expert Post Viewd: 292 Posted: 11/19/07 10:54 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Haveing sex while pregnant

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Good day

I am abt 12 weeks pregnant I dont want to have sex before I am 100 sure that I / we would hurt / damage the baby in any way From when is it save to have sex without increasing your chances of misscaregace (Hope I have spelled the word correctly)

kind regards

jessica

Expert Post Viewd: 350 Posted: 12/3/07 9:38 am Posted by: Replies: 0

I HAVE A PROBLEM

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WELL I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START BUT I'LL TRY I'VE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND/BABY'S FATHER FOR 4 YEARS NOW BASICALLY I FEEL LIKE HE'S A JERK I FEEL LIKE IT MAY HAVE SOMETHING TO DO WITH THE WAY I LOOK IN THE BEGINNING HE WAS COOL AND THEN WHEN I GOT PREGNANT THE FIRST TIME HIS ATTITUDE STARTED TO CHANGE AND HE BECAME A 'DICK' FOR LACK OF A BETTER WORD LONG STORY SHORTER NOW WE 2 CHILDREN TOGETHER (WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING ) WE DON'T HAVE ANY INTIMACY TO ME ANYWAY HE TOLD ME THAT HE 'LOVED' ME AT FIRST I BELIEVED IT BUT NOW I'M SKEPTICAL WHY DO I ALWAYS HAVE TO BEG YOUR ASS FOR SOME PHYSICAL ATTENTION THATS THE QUESTION I ASK HIM OFTEN WHAT DO YOU THINK THAT I SHOULD DO MY LEASE IS UP AT MY APARTMENT IN MARCH '08 AND I WAS THINKING OF MOVING TO NORTH CAROLINA WITH MY FAMILY AT LEAST THERE I WILL HAVE SOME HELP WITH MY LITTLE ONES WHAT WOULD BE THE POINT OF STAYING HERE INDEPENDENTLY I CAN DO THIS ON MY OWN I'M SMART LIKE THAT MY ONLY PROBLEM IS THAT YOU SAID YOU LOVED ME SO ACT LIKE IT WHAT DO YOU SUGGEST

Expert Post Viewd: 233 Posted: 11/18/07 10:06 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

is he lying

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here i go with my complaints of the day

i am happily married; we have one kid and one on the way

in the past 3 years we were very much involved in a group of friends some single some married etc (we are not anymore now )
there were 2 single women that i really came to care about because i felt they were really nice people and yet didnt understand why they were single i have invited one of the women call her woman A to my home on countless basis woman A is best friends with woman B woman B is very nice but although i felt compassion to her as a friend i dont think she saw me like that

these women has given us generous gifts in the past whenever we invite them to our occassions

incident 1:
woman B bought a house and invited us over and because we have never given her a gift before i thought we should give her painting; which we did; when she send an email msg to thank us she only send the email to my dh and forgot to include me in the email address but she mentioned me in the "hello bla and bla"

incident 2:
during the soccer world cup we got invited to a friends house to watch the game and also to welcome their new arrival we brought our dd with us i was holding our dd while dh watch the game in the living room; i came to the living room unannouced and found woman B sitting comfortably on the floor but inbetween my dh's legs immediately she saw me she jumped to the sofa as if she has seen a ghost i found it REALLY weird and uncomfortable

incident 3:
ok after the game everyone came to the backyard and we announced we were taking a family trip; woman B approached me and said she would like to join us on our family trip which i found really weird because i wasnt best friends with her;

dh and i were discussing all of these incidents; he thought i should let go of incident 1 as he thinks woman B forgot

on incidents 2 and 3 he claimed he doesnt remember; i agree with him not remembering incidents 2 because when i came to the room he was very fixated on the game as his team was loosing on incidents 3 he found it to be weird

three weeks ago we met with some friends who are also part of the group; and the dw asked me if i have spoken to woman B lately; the funny thing is ever since my dh and i have known woman B i have never called her to chat; like i said she seems nice when we meet in the group but i always feel she never saw me as a friend if at all with all the incidents i described she looks like she was coming unto my dh

like take for instance last night i mentioned i almost told all of the above incidents of woman B to the rest of the group dh thought there was no need; he claims he doesnt feel comfortable for me to say stuff like this to everyone not that he is protecting woman B; the reason is he doesnt want his name to be part of a rumour even though he knows he is innocent and did nothing wrong

so my question is do you think dh never knew woman B was coming unto him like he claims or he gave hints and signs to woman B for her to come unto him as in he is equally guilty and he is lying

sorry the msg got long

thanks
abena

Expert Post Viewd: 263 Posted: 10/25/07 12:22 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

I feel like we are roomates

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me and my husband used to get along so great before we had our baby in July now we cant be in th same room without fussing i feel like he doesnt appreciate me and i know that i lost all respect and trust for him because he has lied to me I dont want to raise our sweet baby in arguements all the time he doesnt deserve it I dont want him to come from a broken home but i for sure dont want him to be raised in one so confused

Expert Post Viewd: 245 Posted: 11/12/07 8:57 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

husband watching adult programs

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My husband has addictive behavior Lately I catch him in the middle of the night watching adult programs on cable with nudity I will walk into the living room at midnight and ask him what he was just watching because he will frantically turn the channels There is no doubt what he is doing but he lies about it This behavior frustrates me more than normal because he professes to be Chrisitian man I am partly at fault for still sleeping in bed with our three year old daughter but if she is not there in the middle of us my husband would come to bed and wake me up at odd hours in the night for sex like 1 AM or 4 5AM He has since loss much affection towards me and it is like we are roommates at times He is impossible to talk to and manipulative with the counselor when we do go to counseling We were nearly divorced for his alcoholism 2 1/2 years ago that he no longer gets any sort of help for WHat am I to do

Expert Post Viewd: 216 Posted: 11/7/07 1:46 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Unhappy husband

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We've been together for six years but married for two years Just the other day my husband told me he is not happy in our marriage I asked him why and he could not pin point a thing But the other day he just said our marriage is not fulfilling because we don't communicate much However he goes to visit his friends and comes home at 12 or 1 am when I'm already asleep Now how can I communicate with him yet he only comes home when I'm sleeping or to sleep

We have a house together and he has two kids who only come home on weekends and we both have good jobs Can you please advise me on what to think about this whole thing It is really stressing me out I've told him several time that I'd like to stay married and work thru whatever it is that he is not happy about I mean what exactly do I do in this situation

Please help

Expert Post Viewd: 280 Posted: 8/22/07 12:38 am Posted by: Replies: 0