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divorcee

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I’ve been divorced for a few years now and I think it’s time to start dating My son is ten years old and I’m worried how he’ll react I don’t want to upset him and if he can’t handle me dating than I wont It’s just been very lonely What should I do

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 3/24/09 4:39 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Its not the same

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I had my first baby girl this past September 8 and the birth was natural When I had my baby I didnt have a any medication and the birth didnt cause me to have any stitches The doctor okayed me to everything normal but take it one day at a time its been 6 months after birth and I'm still having vaginal pressure and when me and my spouse have sex it HURTS Now since I had a vaginal birth is this normal

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 3/22/09 6:40 am Posted by: Replies: 0

does he really love me

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hi I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago When we started dating he had a girlfriend but assured me he would break up with her soon He told me that he doesn't break up with girls so he was doing everything he could to make her break up with him ten month after he was still with his girlfriend He would always tell me he want to be with me and i should be patient i ended things a week ago but i still want to know if it is possible that he did love me

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 3/7/09 9:28 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

No Sex Drive

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hey I met my Boyfriend when I was 16 I was already Sexually active When I was 17 we moved in together things weren't always easy but we grew strong together Sex was great When I turned 18 I had gained over 50 lbs and fell into a pit of depression I was put on medication and thats when things got very bad We actually ended up breaking up for awhile Now I had a baby girl she is one But my sexual relationship with my man is a daily struggle I do feel like something is wrong with me And I am a little concerned that this will end my relationship because my man is very open with me and he has come to me various times to talk about our sexual issues and i feel like we have tried everything and i still feel like going into sex is almost a drag to me the actual act i mean durning sex i enjoy I feel that if i didn't want to please my man because I love him and don't want him to get frustrated I could prabably do WITHOUT SEX Is that Crazy WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 2/17/09 3:47 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

No Sex Drive

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No Sex Drive

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Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 2/17/09 3:46 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

more advice :)

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Hello its me again sorry I forgot something else I'm sure you've probably heard this before But he always thinks he's right He's never wrong about anything And everything has to go his way there is no compromising It drives me insane I don't know what to do Because whenever he's he the wrong he makes it out that I'm the one that should be agreeing with him Do you know how I might approach this type of situation

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 2/10/09 5:32 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Needing Advice

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Hello Mrs Angela my name is Rebecca To start off I have been with my boyfriend for 2 yrs and we have a 6 month old daughter For the first year and half we were together he cheated on me lied to me and basically just treated me like crap Now we have re located and moved a couple states away from where we did live I honestly believe he's not cheating on me anymore but I still don't trust him As you can imagine why I want to trust him but I can't find it in me to learn how Is there anyway you can help me

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 2/10/09 5:27 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Baby father left

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Myboyfriend and I have been together just about 4 years He has been wanting a child with me ever since we met From different relationships we both have a child Well we recently found out that I was pregnant which was completely planned Well he ended up leaving yesterday to go stay at his mothers house He says he need to vent

I recently had to leave my job and he is the bread winner We havebeen argueing almost nonstop for about two weeks He keeps saying I am talking to him wrong but i really dont see how I am When ever he gets mad he yells and screams and he acts like he doesnt care about me Then the other night he was here at our house dring with his twin brother and his buddy I didnt mind it his brother was very hyper for some reason for 2 hours he kept pulling me pushing me poking me flicking me talk very loudly in my ear it was all in fun I understood that Well several times I asked his brother to stop I even asked my boyfriend to get his brother to stop it didnt and finally I lashed out I yelled at his brother and told him to stop I have never yelled at his brother before I finally reached the my breaking point with someone messing with me Well my boyfriend got mad at me because I yelled at his brother

M boyfriend was yelling at me for yelling at his brother His brother was taken back from me yelling at him but he understood and saidthat was fine and was trying to calm my boyfriend down Well instead of me making matters worse by yelling back at him i ended up leaving I went and stayed at his brothers house (oddly enough his brother came with me to his house) Well through the course of the night my boyfriend called and hung up I called back and he thought he hit silent but actually picked up the phone I was on the phone for about 2 hours and I heard everything that was going on Turns out he was picked up by his ex girlfriends best friend and was taken over to his ex's house

I called and spoke to the ex she said yes he came over nothing happened they hadnt seen each other in a while (this is the same ex that has caused many problems throughout our relationship) I feel very betrayed about this he denies seeing her The next day I spoke to him on the phone and was very calm about him seeing his ex I told him he had a choice to make it's me and this baby or its just you He said I want you come pick me up ( he went to his mothers) I said no you got yourself there you get yourself back Well he called me after I lost my temper with him lieing to me and he said he was going to stay at his mothers house he's going to pick up is things and get the groceries he bought the day before

He eventually came over and did just that took his things and all the groceries I dont know what to do I believe he is being very selfish and very immature especially taking all of the food in the house I mean everything he bought from cheese to hot chocolate

Part of me wants him to come back but the other is saying no absolutely not I dont want to be a single parent to another child but i feel like I am going to have to be Should I really just take this as he is overwhelmed with expecting another child and doesnt know what to do or that he has betrayed and stepped out on me

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 1/25/09 9:50 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

jealous husband

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me and my husband was divorced we got married last may so moved back here in california from england our relationship is kinna ok but the only problem with him very protective he doesn't want me to have any communications to any of my families friends and not even my daughter in england I find it hard to take it how do I talk to him without causing any arguments he's perfect husband but he's been in a marriage with abuse his ex was very physically and verbally abusive do you think he's scared that it might happen again please help living like in prison he won't let me work

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 1/12/09 8:37 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

it not the same with me and my babyfather

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when i frist meet my baby father me and him was like best friends when he found out i was pregnant he wanted me to have a abortion but i woundnt now that im carrying he no i have to depend on him for every thing its like he dont have no respeact for me He lies to me about females then turn around i find out it more to it with these females that leads us to physical fights and aggurments That lead us both saying we dont want to be togather they tell me not to stress but how can i not When u give ur heart and all to a person The person just takes it apart with no remoise what should i do I'm tearing apart emotionally and physically

Expert Post Viewd: 791 Posted: 8/8/07 6:07 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Jeolousy

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My husband and I have been married for 10 year and expecting our 3rd baby I love him alot but I am very jeolous Girls at his work talk to him and give him things well just one girl Should I worry she is supposed to be married But she is always offering him rides taking him to lunch and giving him little things Am I over exagerating

Expert Post Viewd: 719 Posted: 3/5/08 8:55 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

hi sex drive

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ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years and i have a high sex drive but he tells me im too aggressive and he said it turns him off plus he said we should space the sex or it will get boring but what about my needs what am i suppose to do im always in need

Expert Post Viewd: 881 Posted: 3/12/08 4:38 am Posted by: Replies: 0

Cheating

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Hey my name is Kelsi i am 24 weeks pregnant with my boyfriend of 3 years and hasn't cheated for most of the time He went off to school while im pregnant and has changesd and females tell me they slept with him have no clue about me i believe them just why would you do that to somone you soposibly love and made a baby with and was best friends for a year before that but yet won't tell me himself he cheated but i know he is why would he want to hide it and when i find things out he makes up an excuse bout it but everytime i find out about one of these gurls he is talking to or they are talking to him he has no problem just erasing them like there nothing when it comes to being with me what do i do

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 12/25/08 9:31 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Sexually Challenged

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I recently gave birth to my son Ivan I had him by c section With my other three children (all teens now) were vaginal births After giving birth with them I was able to start back making love after my six weeks This child I didn't give it a chance After I healed from the surgery (2 weeks) I immediately jumped right in I was smart I suggested we use condoms so I would get pregnant again Is this safe

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 12/14/08 9:42 am Posted by: Replies: 0

sex

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i gave birth a month ago and it was a regular birth but i have to wait six weeks to have sex Is it ok to have sex in doggy style

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 12/10/08 12:24 am Posted by: Replies: 0

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My husband sleeps about 3 days in a row only to get up to go to the bathroom and eat he is EXTREMELY CRABBY and MEAN when he is up he does this about every 1 to 2 months It is so hard to be around him I have a 16 year old daughter from a previous relationship and a 6 week old baby He seems normal on the days he is not doing this Is he bipolar On a side note he has herpes and gets them on his lower back when he gets them or right before getting them he gets this way could this be the cause of this somehow NOTHING changes his mood not even our 6 week old baby girl :(

Expert Post Viewd: 534 Posted: 2/9/08 6:14 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

can i date a married man he told me he crazy for me and doesnt care if his wife knows

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can i date a married man he told me he crazy for me and doesnt care if his wife knows

Expert Post Viewd: 648 Posted: 1/30/08 4:52 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

less sex

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Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years now i am older than him by4 years i am 32 now and he seems not to be sexually active when i asked him why he told me he likes to miss it but what about me i have a high sex drive

Expert Post Viewd: 506 Posted: 3/6/08 1:52 am Posted by: Replies: 0

Never had an orgasm

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Hi I am 24 years old and I am sexualy active since 20 I had 3 guys so far with two previous I slept only one time each but now I am in loving relationship I am expecting my first baby and my partner and I are planing on getting married I love him to death and I can't imagine my life with nobady else but there is one problem I NEVER HAD AN ORGASM WITH HIM With other guys also not but with him I am bearly even "wet" He thinks that I am having orgasm almost every single time because I am pretending but I would like to have one at least It is imposible for me to get "horny" sometimes even And he is realy tring thats why I am pretending but I feel like something is missing How is it that I can make myself come in 4 min and with himI can't in 20 min And please don't tell me to talk to him because I can't I am too shy and besides I would die if he would found out that I was lying to him about having orgasm PLEASE HELP

Expert Post Viewd: 799 Posted: 11/15/07 5:50 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

is he cheating or not

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My boyfriend and i have been friends for about 5 years In between those five years we have two years of a realationship Six and half month's ago we got the news that i was pregnant so we decided to take it to the next level and move in get engage and making plans for our wedding coming on december But ever since i knew him i know that he has an 8 year old child and that he and his ex girlfriend keep a close contact because of it this is when problem starts at the begining of me moving in his ex came to the house all the time and we got along great but i start noticing this signs between them how she looked at him and how he looked at her this was during his week vacation i was going to college in the moring so she was there after i left once i came in an they were in our room with the door lock they seemed scared but i didn't put to much attention to it since then i had a suspesion that my boyfriend and her are cheating on me she doesn't speak to me anymore she acts all suspecious when they are together and the last thing she has been leaving her kids to sleepover and on those same night my boyfriend tends to disappear for hours and i'll ask him were his been and he'll just say out there and also his change alot with me so what do you think is he cheating or not

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 10/23/08 2:39 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

expecting but my fionce is getting a big attitude problem

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hey i am 18 years old and im 18 weeks pregnant im due in february and my fionce is 18 years old to and he is starting to get a bad attitude toward everything like he dnt care anymore is that going to cause problems when the baby gets here

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 10/2/08 5:13 am Posted by: Replies: 0

Single Mom and Dating

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I am a single mom and I am currently dating a wonderful man my mother says it wrong and I dont think it is I really need some help is it wrong for single moms to date and involve a man who they consider to be a good man into their childs life Help

Expert Post Viewd: 4 Posted: 9/3/08 6:01 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Your thoughts

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My boyfriend and I just recently broke up I am 7months pregnant and my emotions have been up and down Things have not been the greatest between us since I got pregnant He has been very bitter since I didn't get an abortion I really have been trying to not bother him as much even though its hard I recently found out that he is seeing someone else and it hurts He denies it However we have seperated by his chose I really miss him and want to work it out Do you think that we can work things out Or if we'll ever get back together PLease give me your advise I'm not sure your religion but I also need prayers that things work out for the best

Please advise

Thanks

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 9/3/08 2:04 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Is their hope

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My boyfriend and I just broke up because I found out that he was cheating on me even though he denies it I am 7months pregnant I was wondering if you know if things will ever work out between the two of us Or will we just be parents to our unborn child I love him but right now I'm not sure about much He has been very bitter towards me since he found out I was pregnant He seems to think its all my fault We have only been together for a year and a half

My birthday is September 5 1979 His is July 12 1962

Please help and advise soon

Thanks

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 8/31/08 8:08 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

c sections

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i had a c section 10 months ago and im now 7 almost 8 months pregnant doc said i had to have another c section with this child problem is i m claustraphobic and during this process i was given a epidural and layed down and a warm blanket was drapped across my chest area then my arms were put on arm holders and iv's were put in they kinda stapped my arms down for safety reasons i was told long story short i freaked out and tried to sit up tore my arms out of the strap things and flung the blanket needless to say they put me out and continued with c section three hours later i got to see my baby so everybody in my family got to see my son before me i was upset is there anything i could do so that they don't have to put me out

Expert Post Viewd: 604 Posted: 8/10/07 9:06 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

I CAN'T ENJOY SEX

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textHi i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half we have a 3 month old baby girl the problem is that when i was 7 months pregnant i caught him watching porn and that really hurt me i became obsesive and thought from then on that every time i couldnt have sex with him he would watch it again after i had my baby my sex drive decreased a lot i am 19 years old and i worry if this is normal i try really hard to enjoy sex with him but i just cant concentrate the image when i caught him always comes to my mind i really wanna work this out i want us to be a happy family i just dont know how to approach him on that i also wonder if it is because he wants to do what he saw on that porn and i definitely dont like that and every time he tries to penetrate me it hurts :tissue: what should i do please help me

Expert Post Viewd: 2129 Posted: 5/8/07 6:13 pm Posted by: Replies: 7

Intimacy problems when pregnant Kinda personal (re: husband)

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So I think my DH and I are having intimacy problems during pregnancy Last 2 out of 3 times we tried to be frisky which isn't often now adays he stopped and made some excuse of why (uncomfortable too hot phone ringing at beginning distracted him too much etc ) We had only had this happen maybe 2X in our entire marriage before I got pregnant I am terrified after 9 years of marriage he is beginning to lose attraction to me Or is this just a pregnancy thing This is the first time I've even been pregnant and I am feeling ugly rejected and worried he is falling out of love with me Has anyone else had similar experiences Do men get weird during pregnancy What could be causing the problem

I've tried talking to him about it and he's not worried he's going to hurt the babies Mostly he makes up a bunch of excuses why for "that" time he did say he is having some thoughts of me being a 'mother' and not his wife/plaything which depresses me I don't want us to not be intimate the rest of our lives

I mean if it were becaue he isn't attracted right now because my breasts have gotten ginormous or the extra weight I'd almost feel better because those things will go away after this mental thing with us starting and him not being able to finish I know shouldn't bother me but I feel so worried I'm going to lose him and rejected

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 6/23/08 7:40 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Why is spying right

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I broke trust in our 6 year relationship when I lied about still texting a friend (which is a boy) after being asked He had already known the answer because he had been checking my phone records Last week I found a sytem set up in our basement that was recording all of our house phone calls He also checks all my emails and phone records constantly His excuse is that I have to build his trust back and he has every right to do this Is this right

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 6/13/08 1:57 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

feelings toward my fiance

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I have been with my mate for a year and a half I love him to deathbut now I am having feelings that I dont want to be with him Im 6 months pregnant and its like he is starting to disgust me He is not cheating but I dont know why i am having these feelings Whats wrong

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 5/14/08 3:18 pm Posted by: Replies: 0