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My sister   Question Hello My sister has a problem Her husband with whom she has a 3 year old son is the problem He has some problems of his own He has been in prison and can't find a job because of it He has found comfort in drinking alot every night according to my sister He doesn't tell her that he loves her and cuts her down in front of other people like me and my companion She is not fat but she is not skinny When she eats he insults her by how much she eats She doesn't eat alot I think it's just his way of telling her he wants her to lose weight When he gets drunk he beats on her and calls her names and threatens her She doesn't want to leave him she just wants him to stop He doesn't even look for a job he stays at home with their 3 year old She has an 8 year old and a 16 year old and she works two jobs to make ends meet I don't really know what to tell her can you give me some advice for her
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confused in my marriage Question hello I had a somewhat strange question to ask I am married with three kids and a forth on the way My first son is froma previous relationship the rest are from my husband I cannot say we have a perfect marriage and there are times when I have lefted him but as usual we end up making up and he comes back My husband is a very jealous insecure man who expect a perfect life with perfect kids This is impossible However I feel that I am staying with him to help out the kids I want to wait until they are a bit older so they may understand what has really happenned I guess aswell sometimes I feel like I won't be able to make it financially without him Well aside from this the only thing I can say is that I do love my husband but I know I am not in love with him anymore I don't like spending time with him nor being intimate with him I just want my kids to have a two parent family I think about how it would be like without him and the idea of ever being with another man never crosses my mind After all the men problems I've gone through I don't want to have anything to do with men I just want to be with my kids and see them happy My question is I dream alot of men I have known throughout my life either as a boyfriend or just as friends In my dream I am in a relationship with these men and I truly do love them I can actually feel this love that I have for them Why does this happen Is my mind telling me that I am looking for someone else I wake up very confused from these dreams these are guys that I never felt love for at any time in our relationship As well I've know this guy since I was about 6 yrs old ( I am 30 now) I had the hugest crush on him and I felt that he liked me too Throughout our years growing up we have run into each other here and there and have really never said much to each other aside from hello how are you doing But I know he feels something for me Is this possible to feel something for someone I really don't know or do you think it is just me playing out a childhood crush I sometimes wonder if he was the one i was suppose to end up with it just seems too much of a coincedence all the times we see each other Please let me know what you think of my two situations Maria
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HELP, HELP, HELP, HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Question I need someones advice Someone that can look at my situation from a strangers point of view I am ingaged set to get married in Feb of next year (or so i think) My fiance is a wonderfull man A man with issues I might add My mom a real head strong singel mother that would do anything to protect me and my brother The problem is My mom and my fiance had a bit of a disagreement Now he will never have her blessing to marry me I dont know if I can stay with him if they dont see eye to eye Do I end this to keep the peace or do I marry the man of my dreams and tell her to butt out
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anatomy Question Im six months and I was told my one of my co workers that I should have a C section When I asked why (because Im trying hard to go back to my size 2s with a flat stomach) she said that having a baby vaginally messes up your anatomy is this true
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First time mommie
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Rough sex during early pregnancy.... Question I was wondering what kind of sex is ok to have during early pregnancy Would more rough sex be ok or is it best to just be gentle Also is it ok if I orgasm Because I have read on some web pages that pregnant women aren't to climax Thanks for your input
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help! Question My husband and I have been married for 10 years In our first years of marriage we had sex all the time Now it's been 4 months I was pregnant for the first two months but miscarried and I keep asking him if something is wrong and he says he tired Do you think he has low testosterone I know he cheating but seriously how does a man go that long
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Why do I miss my ex boyfriend? Question Hi there I am 36 weeks pregnant and with the best guy anyone could ask for Im so happy and love him so much I hope we are together forever we both cant wait for our baby So then why do I miss my ex boyfriend I saw a picture of him kissing his girlfriend and I got really sad all of a sudden And I feel this regret we broke up Why am I feeling this I love my boyfriend so much And sometimes my very first boyfriend who I lost my viginity to I want to call and talk to him Why am I like this This isnt normal is it I would be very upset if my boyfriend felt this way about his exgirlfriends :question::question::question:
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Husband and sex Question My husband and I have a 12 year old and I am 7 months preg (surprise)Last time when I was preg he was in the militaryso I did not see the behavior I see nowMy husband went to my first ultrasound in Jan and was just freaked out he had never seen an ultasound before where the baby was moving around and stuff Well since Jan we have had sex maybe 3 times Before that we had a wonderful healthy sex life that was good to both of us at least three times a week First he said it was work then after one night of me crying on the floor begging why he didn't want me anymore he confessed he's scared to touch me because he doesn't want to see anything happen to me or the baby I know he's not cheating on me and yes he watches porn and stuff but he has watched that stuff since I've met him it's not excessive But I've tried just wanting to be nice to him and he said he can't even have me do that because it's just different but he's like after you have the baby it will be ok again I've talked to a couple people and they have said he has put me on this pedastle and can not look at me the same way preg I mean is this normal and do you think things will go back to the way they were Thanks for the help |
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My husband's credit affects OUR credit, but he doesn't get it!! Question :hug:As a wife it my job to encourage my husband to do his best in everything he does What can I say to him to help him understand that his financial habits affect our present and future When we first got married I didn't think it was a big deal because I felt that as long as I saved and budgeted we were alright But since half our savings was used when we relocated across the country a year ago and our combined salaries are lower than one of our salaries prior to our move things are getting tight We're living paycheck to paycheck and can't even afford to put money aside for savings We want to buy a house now This is where I realized that I need to push him to improve his credit It's not the credit score alone that I'm concerned about it's the things that have made the score low Things like not paying bills at all Ignoring the Dept of Education when they call He bought a time share (against my approval) while he wasn't working and now he's way behind in payments but won't call them to work something out I get all those messages not him He'd rather pretend they're not calling I write his messages and place them in a place he can see them but I can't make his choices for him I don't want to nag even though I feel the urge to I don't want to beat him over the head even though I feel the urge to I have told him that he should at least call these agencies and see if something can be worked out and that he needs to stop relying soley on my good credit score when we concsider making major financial purchases when he can work on pullin his up What can I do or say to a stubborn husband who was raised in a poor family and led to believe that because you worked hard to earn your money you it's okay to spend it frivolously And that it's okay to borrow money from someone sign a contract saying you'll pay them back then take the money and run Help |
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No Attraction. Question hi im 31 and my husband is 35 we've been together 11 years and married for 5 of those years We have 4 children and one on the way I have stepped outside of my marriage and became pregnant by the other man I eventually lost the baby and my husband and i gt back together My problem is i am not sexually attracted to my husband This has been the case since my first daughter was born back in 2000 When he begs or asks for sex it makes me sick to my stomach literally When i finally give in it feels so nasty and i count the minutes til he's done Is there any medication or something i can take or is there a counslor i need to see I t really hurts him when i am unresponsive to him What can i do Is divorce the answer
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just a little mor info for you....thans alot Question well he has lots of health problems with his whole intire body but most is the back and legs he has lots of torn muscles herniated disks in his back and also his neck and has socliois and bipolar anexity depression from his child hood and so many more issues that i cant think of now but he does it once in a while to make me happy when i tutor him about it i no its a sickness but i am horny all the time lol well any advice and he says he likes to sleep down on the floor cause he feels safer and he likes to stay up late wtchin tv and all i like to sleep in the dark with no lights or tv so thats a reasn also help please i lovehim to death but im lonely and horny non stop everyday |
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no sex ,and noone to go to bed with me no more!! what is gone on? Question hi i was wondering im 27 years old my husband is 31 we been together for almost 3 years now married 2 in june we used to have the best relationship at first then we got married 6 months after we started seeing each other(we knew each other since we were teens and we were best of friends for the last 7)now we had the best sex ever until he had started his med's for his pain"he takes pain medication" since then it's like he never wants to have intercourse or any sexual activity at all im a 27 year old ho loves to do it and i get so angry that some times i wanna leave the doctor even gave viagra to him that dont even get him in to it at all he barely sleeps in bed no more with me he falls asleep on the couch down stairs every night im getting so tired of being lnely and IN HEAT LOL any advaice please help i love my husband and want it to work and i no he loves me we are always with one another when he dont work so i no he will never cheat he dont have the time to so i no that is out of the please help us i dont wanna lose him but i cant take being this lonely and horny joanne
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he dose not love me enymore Question my exboyfriend broke up with me after i found out that he was talking to other women mostly on the internet and we are still friends also we just had a baby girl together she is three weeks old should i stop tring to be with him or never give up because i still love him :ti:tissue:
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baby Question my boyfriend does not believe me that my unborn baby is his because he used to be together with a girl and they never had children and they thought it was him but once she was pregnant but she lost the baby when she was like 2 months I've heard lots of stories of couples that been married for almost 12 years and suddenly the wife gets pregnant I feel bad because he does not believe me what advice do you give me
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ORGASM Question HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU HAVE HAD AN ORGASM MY BOYFRIEND IS VERY STUCK ON ME HAVING ORGASMS MOST OF THE TIME THAT WE HAVE SEX I DON'T WANT HIM TO FEEL AS IF HE IS NOT PLEASING ME BECAUSE HE IS WHAT ARE TE SIGNS THERE HACE BEEN TIMES THAT I FEEL VERY DIFFERENT |
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sex after baby Question I had a baby in August and since then my husband and I have had sex maybe eight time it has been so long I am just guessing that we have done it maybe seven times I like sex and would do it a few time a week but when I try to get my husband to do anything I get I'm tired I do'nt like to do it at night I would rather do it in the morning There is always an excuse It seems to me that he would rather masturbate than even touch me I come home and find he has watched porn and when I ask him he gets mad He will not even sleep next to me in bed I do not know what I should do I feel like maybe there is someone else what should I do
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HELP!!! Question I'AM MARRIED TO 1 OF 6 SO OBVIOUSLY THEY ARE ALL MARRIED I REALLY DO NOT GET ALONG WITH THEIR WIVES BUT WE ALL HAVE CHILDREN SO I THINK THAT IT IS IMPORTANT TO GET ALONG FOR THERE SAKE HOW SHOULD A APPROACH THE PROBLEM I AM GENUALLY A GOOD AND KIND HEARTED PERSON SO PLEASE HELP ME:secrets:
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Hurting Husband Question Hi I don't know where to start HmmmI feel that I don't matter to my wife She says I do but she does not show me Most things she does come across as a "duty" and she will passify me I don't like to be passified She know that too we've been together for 16 years In our early 40's I just feel like I matter little in her life She says she loves me very much But something is not right
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my boyfriend Question Hello I will include namesto make this clearer but the names will be changed The man I live with Steve was my first love I started dating him when i was 20 iam now 31 Our relationship had been good then took a turn for worse He had started drinkin and cheating on me and while he was drinking he could be abusive He would not hit me but he would hold me down and had thrown me into a wall and had left bruises on me before Well after sometime and a DUI he has stopped drinking like that By this time we had not had a sexual relationship in over 2 years and now did not even really speak anymore Well i ended up meeting someone who would come into the store where i worked i will call him Todd Well i fell in love with todd and became pregnant with his son But we are from a very small town and people make up stories because they dont like to see other poeple happy Sad but true it seems Well Steve kept telling me how sorry he was for the way he had acted and would help me raise my son Todd ended up meeting another girl who was into drugs He knew i would not have my son around that But he ended up on Methandone He was trying to get help and was tryin to quit and ended up dieing from a methadone overdose in June 06 Well i had alwasy loved Todd and thought of him almost everyday and kept tryin to get the nerve to at least stop and talk to him After he passed i found out from his family that he had felt the same towards me and our son Well Steve cant understand why i would be upset over Todds passing I cry almost everyday I just cant let Steve know Steve hates all of Todds family and wishes they all would die Steve used tobe good with my son until he got old enough to get into stuff he is now 3 But steve is very short tempored with my son and i know everyone can get frustrated but he is not around him enough to get that frustrated I do love Steve but im not really in love with him anymore we have not had a sexual relationship in a little over a year now but i dont really want one with him He says he loves me and that he loves my son but im not sure if it is just because i am there to take care of him I quit worked in August for several reasons but had ALWAYS worked until then All the things I do now I did then except i no longer work so i can spend more time with my son But even while i worked i had to do ALL of the cooking cleaning laundry dishes feeding the dog mowing the yard( he does that once in awhile) but i also have to set his alarms and wake him up in the morning otherwise he would be late for work I feel like a mother of two instead of one He is happy as long as everything is goin his way so i have always tried to make sure that things have gone his way But I am not really happy I am afraid to leave Steve alone because he is not much of a people lover and may not have anyone once im gone I do love him and it makes me sad to think about leaving him and my son loves him and referrs to him as Dada But the most love I get from Steve is a kiss goodbye in the morning and he says he loves me but actions to speak louder than words and i keep bein nicer and nicer and waitin for him to show his love back but i feel like he just expects me to take care of him and thats it I feel like i have lost my true love Todd by not dealin with my issues that i still have I beleive i should have left Steve before my son really knew who he was It is so easy for others to tell me "just leave" but for some reason in my mind it is not that easy Can you please help me on what i should do should i stay should i leave It just seems like it will hurt when i leave him and im soo tired of hurting but i want a realtionship where i am loved back Please help Thank you so much
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My 4 year problem Question My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years We have a daughter together and another one on the way I cheated on him back in 2005 and he has yet to get over it The conversation comes up in our fights and he still fears that I will do it again I don't trust him He hasn't admitted to cheating on me but he cheated on his exwife their entire marriage of 9 years and he has told me that he finds it tempting at times to cheat Plus his BF has told me stories about him I haven't caught him doing anything yet I have thought about leaving so many times but I don't want to have my kids without both parents Our fights are getting worse What can we do to help our relationship before one of us calls it quits
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my husband Question we just found out that my husband is bi polar he is very hard to deal with as he hasnt got the medication yet he still has to see a doc for that at the end of month but the phychologist hes been seeing for the last 2 mths says hes defintly got the signs the truth of the matter he is driving me nuts i dont know if i can wait for him to get fixed he has emotional high and lows i never know whats next this is so hard to live with and lately its getting so worse what do i do wait i do love him and always will and of course im willing to wait im just frusterated scared and have noone to talk too
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Marriage problems after Miscarriage's Question I have been married for almost five years and have a 10 yr old step daughter My husband and I have had two ectopics (resulting in losing one of the tubes) and three weeks ago just lost a set of twins at 14wks I keep blaming my husband that he does'nt care as much as I do because he already has a child where as I dont He of course gets mad and we fight Why do I feel like this What can we do to make our marriage stronger and not weaker I dont want to lose him but yet at the same time I feel resentful of being around his daughter (even though her and I are closer than him and her) What is my problem I am angry and jealous that I can not give my husband a child let alone a family
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Valentines Question Question Hi Angela I'm a fairly new mom and find myself extremely busy with my first child Because of my new role as wife and mother My husband in the past has always gone out of his way to go all out sparing no expense for Valentines day I realize that I'm extremely lucky in this manor however with the new baby this year I don't feel the expenditure is appropriate as I'd now prefer to put moneys away for our child's education Would you have any suggestions of how I could communicate this to him and suggest alternate scaled down ways to celebrate the holiday with hurting his feelings
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don't know what to do.... Question my fiance and i fight a lot mostly cuz of his insecurities he doesn't trust me at all and it pisses me off excuse the language he won't get a job cuz of it i don't go anywhere and at times i barely leave our room we live with his mother and 3 of his brothers he has accused me nuberous times of doing things i'm "not supposed to do" and i could be right by his side all day also he says i have "looked" at other guys and probly want to sleep with them or i probly already have i am so tired of everything and have been very patient with him i don't even hardly look someone in the face when and if i have a conversation with them but he talks about all these girls he see how hot they are whether i am with him or not and i'm not allowed to say anything about it or we fight help please
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Meeting the "new guy" Question Hi Angela I have a question about having my son meet a guy that I've been dating on and off for the last few months We were dating for a couple of months and broke up last November and he had met my son briefly once My son wasn't getting good vibes from this guy which is why I hadn't had him around this guy any more Then we broke up for various reasons mostly his insecurities However I decided to give this another go I had him spend the day with me and my son this last weekend and it seemed to go fine But me and my son aren't totally ready to have this new guy involved in our lives Him and all of his friends are thinking that I'm goofy for NOT wanting to bring my son around him all the time Is it being too protective of my son who by the way is 6 years old I've had him meet another "friend" of mine in the past but not until about 6 months of dating him And my son was perfectly fine with him Is there any kind of parameters to follow with the "introduction" Or is it just a matter of comfort Any help is appreciated Brenda
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Boyfriend's Boy Question I have a wonderful boyfriend who has a wonderful son He is 3 years old and we have him more than 50 of the time It's very overwhelming to me to all of a sudden become a step mom It's also hard to start a relationship with a child already involved I need any kind of advice to keep me sane and to help keep my relationship with my boyfriend going I love them both very much but his son behaves very badly most of the time We are usually at my house and i live in a basement suite He really likes to scream and we dont know how to stop him I'm afraid that i might get kicked out of my house He is not my step son yet but we do have plans to get married i just dont know what my place is to discipline or to even say anything my boyfriend is a wonderful father but he has a problem with disciplining his boy and i dont know how to say anything to him either My other big concern is that we have his son every weekend and his ex wife has him mon tues This makes it very had to have time with my boyfriend because my only days off are saturday sundays How can we ask her to change the schedule a bit so that we have him for one week then she has him the next instead of us always having him on the weekends Please help me :question:
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when its okay Question I just had a miscarriage and my husband wants to start again now but I don't have a sex drive help if you can :tissue:
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Breaking up Question My boyfriend has decided to go our seperate ways What started this arguement is when I layed my daughter down to bed he went to bed When I got done washing her bottles and headed to bed myself she was tossing and turning I noticed that she had dirtied her diaper So I picked her up laid her on the bed and changed her All the while he is getting mad at me for waking her up I explain to him that she was dirty and wouldn't sleep like that not to mention he shouldn't expect her to He still argues that she was fine and that I should have just came to bed with him I fed her and let her play for a while then laid her back down I take 30 minutes to myself on the computer He comes out and shoves the baby swing across the room and goes to the bathroom When he comes out of the bathroom he starts yelling at me that I should be in bed when she is sleeping Even though I don't agree with him I get off the computer and go to bed He reaches his mother on the phone and tells her that we are fighting and all He accuses me of saying that he's not allowed to see his daughter and also accuses me of only being with him for his money He throws it in my face that he was there for every baby doctor apt I had and for the birth I am suppose to congratulate him and be forever in his debt because he done what a father should do When he told his mother what was going on she threatened that she would come here and " kick my ass " He refused to let me talk to her Which not to mention she never listens to me anyways because his word is all that matters I told him that I was done in the relationship and tried to give him the money that he had given me out of his check and he threw it across the room I asked if I could use his cell phone to call my mother and ask her if she could come get me and my daughter and he refused He said "why should I let you use my phone We aren't together anymore " Which also leads back to what I wrote about before about him trying to keep me away from my family he is upset that I have more phone numbers stored into his cell phone than he does It's our only phone I'm very upset & confused about how to handle this whole mess If you could give me some advice it would be appreciated Thank you Sincerely Genesis
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Angela Monti Fox, LCSW Having practiced psychotherapy for over 25 years with a specialization in sexual healing and problems with intimacy, she now devotes full time to the practice of mind/body medicine, birthing with hypnosis, as well as clinical hypnotherapy, solution/focused psychotherapy and couples counseling. 
