Angela Monti Fox, LCSW Having practiced psychotherapy for over 25 years with a specialization in sexual healing and problems with intimacy, she now devotes full time to the practice of mind/body medicine, birthing with hypnosis, as well as clinical hypnotherapy, solution/focused psychotherapy and couples counseling. read more

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Page 1, 2, 3, 4, 5   love/relationship expert   Thread Posted by Replies Views Date   my husbands female friend Question hello my husband has this female friend who is alot younger than me and him they talk online to each other and on the phone i told him iam ok with it but i dont think iam i know he wont cheat on me i trust him he told me that if i dont want him to talk to her anymore he would do it behind my back i dont know waht to do i dont care that he has female friends it is just the way he talks about her and how he defends her when i say something about her please help what should i do thank you in advance Answer frog31683 1 813 5/24/07 12:13 pm   husband's online female friend Question My husband has a female friend who he met in a chat room before I ever met him He did have a short lived physical relationship with her and now they are just friends He wasn't forthcoming with info about her because he was afraid I would not like it as had happened to him in the past so that made me suspicious of the whole thing I even snooped in his email before (which he now knows about) and read their emails There really wasn't anything strange or inappropriate in there but sometimes I still get a nagging feeling about the whole thing Of course I can't be friends with her because she lives very far away and they only talk online or on the phone I would guess 2 3 times per week (my husband is currently living overseas for military work) I don't think my husband will cheat on me either but sometimes I feel like I want him to talk to me and share things with me all the time not also with her He tells me that he never discusses our relationship with her and she doesn't discuss her romantic relationships either My husband also is not willing to give up this friendship which makes me wonder how he really feels about our marriage but he seems to think there is nothing wrong with friends of the opposite sex etc I tend to agree but since I can't even meet this person it is all "behind my back" in a way it feels so weird He did tell me he will answer whatever questions I have but I know if I keep asking questions all the time he will get annoyed and think I don't trust him at all I just don't know what is appropriate I know everyone has different feelings regarding this type of thing but most people I have talked to about it think he should have respected my feelings and just stopped being friends with her I just don't know what to think or do Any insight would be really helpful Thanks Answer hmpf 1 677 5/29/07 8:40 pm   ???? Question I guess I just want to vent My husband and I were married and divorced before we were apart for 5 years then got back together and married again during the time apart he had a girlfriend but would use me for sex from time to time I have trust issues with that he hasn't had a job and he does what he wants all day long he says he doeesn'tlike my resentment and insecurity issues How can I get over what happened before we got back together He thinks I should have no reason to think he would do that to me because we have a history together and its different with us I think there is alot of stress as well because I have a 15 year old daughter that is not his and he has no job he looks but not very hard and he is picky about what kind of job to get he says he doesn't want to be miserable in a job that he doesn't like I hate worrying about this I am 11 weeks pregnant and have had 2 miscarriages I have to work full time I feel like he wants me to just let him do what he wants to do no questions asked I mean he never goes out to bars or anything like that I have no friends that live near me and no family near me either I really have no money for couseling either Lisa777 0 535 6/19/07 4:16 pm me and my future husband Question Well I meet my boyfriend 4 yrs ago but we are a few years apart and we argue about things that is relly not call for then he just get mad at me for no reason then he ask me to leave but when I get ready to get leave he say sorry then ask me not to go but he do it again and again what should I do to keep my relationship off the rocks because I love him sooo sooo much and we don't know what we would do without each other Sometimes I want to leave without him knowing but he would be lost without me Mz Sexxy 0 815 5/31/07 10:59 pm   depression (husband) Question hi me and my husband just welcomed our beautiful daughter georgia she is now three weeks old well we are happy about everything and love each other so much i just recently found out that my husband is sort of depressed i dont really know why he is but he said that that is what he felt like i asked what we can do to fix it and he doesnt really know either i think it's me because i havent really cuddled up with him for at least a week i also think he doesnt want to hurt my feelings by telling me that i might be the reason he is feeling depressed so i just wanted to know if there was any way that i could help him abennett 0 357 8/24/07 7:21 pm   ongoing relationship Question I met my boyfriend when i was 17yrs i am 24 now We have been off and on for the whole time he is 7yrs older than i am he has had kids and a divorce after 1 month of marriage whlie being apart i have no kids and in school and have a good job  for what ever reason we always seem to come back together i was pregnant and had a miscarriage recently and he wasnt there for me as much as he should have i was/am angry about that my question is how can i move on i try dating other people when we are not together but again it always come back that we end up together for some time frame i want a real relationship this time and he wants it but really dont have time i feel you shouldnt have to fit someone in your schedule if you want to be with them what should i do babyjpooh2001 0 319 8/22/07 4:47 pm   frustrated Question my boyfriend and i have a 2 1/2 year old and I am in my 28 th week of pregnancy with twins Im starting to feel really umcomfterble and im not able to lift of play with our son as much Im not able to do much house work either my boyfriend told me im just milking it is there anything i can do to get him to understand what im going through twinmom 0 326 8/20/07 2:51 pm   what can my boyfriend do to stay calm durning my moodswings Question i have horrible moodswings and my poor boyfriend gets the end of it how or what kind of advise can you give him where he wont feel like i'm taking it out on him and what can he do to help me calm down and to relaze Poottankmama 0 375 8/19/07 10:54 pm   oral sex Question Hi   I've always wanted to ask this to someone but never could   Basically My wonderful husband to be (in 5wks) loves to give me oral pleasure   Ever since the first time we became intimate   He had to go straight "downtown"   I've really never cared for it that much   Yes it can be exciting and new but I also feel very private about my private   Now I'm very comfortable with him and I don't mind but it still doesn't give me an orgasm   He keeps trying to achieve this and now I just try to get into it for his pleasure   I think he's done a great job with other women in the past that he assumes we all are just crazy about this   I prefer the real "one on one" act personally   Is there something wrong with me not achieving total mind blowing satisfaction from this act   Is there a way to try   Advice is welcome   Thanks   kris 0 398 8/14/07 4:02 am   Sex Drive???????? Question Me and my boyfriend has been together for 8months now but we known each other for over a year and we are expecting our first child in November Since I been pregnant my sex drive is very HIGH and he thinks I'm an animal in which to me I feel like we have slowed down with the love making I'm 27 and he is 35 he says that he does not want to lose the spark in our love life but I feel some times that he does not find me sexy any more I have always been thin(105 pounds) and my weight is now 115 pounds Please help me understand is it  my emotions and how to communicate with him to let him know once a week is not enough for me( lol lol lol) tummygirl 0 305 8/6/07 11:57 am   low sex drive, PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Question my fiancee and i use to have a great sex life this past january he hurt himself on the job and was on three different medications now he has little to no sex drive and its stressing me out   could the medication have the affect on him   and would he ever get better without having to take pills such as viagra babiesangel 0 406 8/3/07 6:37 am   low sex drive, PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Question my fiancee is almost 37 and im almost 29 we just recently had a child in july   he had gotten hurt on the job and was out of work for 2 months the doctor had him on 3 different medications 1 being naproxen and not sure of the other 2 anyways from the time he started to take them in january till present   he has barely had a sex drive at all   i feel like now with the stress of worrying about him im losing mine as well   i dont feel like having sex   do you think the medication had something to do with him losing his sex drive and will he ever get it back without having to take pills like viagra or something   PLEASE HELP babiesangel 0 345 8/2/07 3:35 am   my son's father and i cant get along Question Hello I'm a 24 year old student and Im in dire strays my unborn sons father and i cnat seem to make things work my problem is I cant trust him we've known each other since h s and I love him so very much but he did some things that made it hard for me to trust him this second time around we lived together and due to an arguement he put me out i then moved with m y family(totally embarrassing) he stayed in the house but has since started rooming with two females(for lack of a better word)he knew i cant handle that but he says it was so he can save money it was his stupid mothers idea these girls are friends of his younger sister either way he isnt with me yet we were still having semi regular sex up until two days ago when i found porn at his house why does he need that it made me so mad he got mad because he says i go through his things and said its his friends dvd and told me hisis the final straw and leave him alone &if i need to put him on child support then do it because he still will see our son i only went through his things to find out if hes seeing someone else which im pretty sure he is HEEELLPPP i really want him back he was my first true love and still is this is my first child and i just want to be with him how can i get him back without seeming desperate i really love this man i just dont know what to do i want him to see me in a whole other light and also want  to be with me what should i do he said we'd be together forever I dont even go looking for other men and i dont think i will even after i have my son thatgirl 0 361 8/1/07 11:59 pm   husband's weight gain Question I have been with my husband for 11 years and we have a baby daughter My problem is that I'm not attracted to him as much as I was because of his weight gain He has always struggled with his weight but kept it off to the best of his ability He's had a very stressful year and put on weight he's not fat but definitely 15 20 pounds overweight He is so sensitive about his weight and does not really acknowledge it himself He talks about "going on a diet" all the time but never really does It's putting a strain on our marriage because we are not having as much sex because I'm not as attracted to him Also I get angry at him for not taking care of this problem I feel so guilty and shallow for even thinking it but I really can't help what I'm attracted to Any ideas for a) helping me not focus on his weight and b) how I can deal with him without making him angry or hurting his feelings I love my husband and don't want to lose him Thanks lilcamp 0 347 7/28/07 1:25 am   LOVE Question I DONT KNOW IF ITS A GOOD THING TO STAY WITH MY SONS DAD OR NOT WE HAVE A LOT OF PROABLEMS WITH EACHOTHER AND BESIDES THERES SOMEONE ELSE ON MY MIND violetlujan 0 346 7/25/07 11:00 pm   MAKING LOVE Question WHAT HAPPENS IF SOMEBODY HAS SEX BEFORE THE 40 DAYS ARE DUE IS IT REALLY BAD MARIPOSA 0 466 7/23/07 9:23 pm   Re: Questions Question I had put a question up here in May and wanted to know why it is taking so long for a response I understand if your to busy could you direct me to a place where I can find some answers Thank you :wave: doodledude 0 456 7/12/07 3:29 am   loss sex drive Question I've been happily married for 4 years and we have been together for 6 I have always had a low sex drive but about two years ago it basically dropped to nothing My husband is not a very outgoing person and doesn't "ask" for sex so we rarely have it We just had a baby and now I can't imagine ever finding the time for sex I love my husband dearly and know he loves me How do we get the spice back into our lives It's something that I worry about constantly Answer MaxsMom 1 620 6/22/07 11:13 pm my husband Question my husband talks to this girl online kitten he lies to me about talking to her and everything They talk about how much they like each otherand how much they miss each other when they havent talked for a day It makes me angry because i had our 1st child which was stillborn on may 11th when i tell him how i feel about he gets mad at me Answer gayle1183 1 814 6/26/07 1:04 am   Sex drive Question My husband and I have been married for two years now and have been together forever it feels like He was my first as far as sex is concerned and it was always so great (Maybe because we were young and wanted to do it all the time) Now that we've been married for a while things have changed We tried for a baby for a year and nothing ever happened That caused a lot of issues in our marriage and he was always bring it up in our arguements in a hurtful way to try and hurt my feelings that i couldn't seem to get pregnant Ever since I caught him looking at dating websites and porn a few months back I have been really unattracted towards him in a sexual way I have NEVER i repeat NEVER had an orgasm EVER out of my 4 years of being sexually active Its not that the sex isn't good i cant ever get to that point i tend to dry up really quick and find myself not enjoying sex with him anymore although I love him very much Do you have any advice bt889 0 420 7/11/07 2:24 pm   BABY DADDY PROBLEMS Question HI ANGELA I'LL BE 9 MONTHS PREGNANT ON JULY 2 2007 AND MY EX BOYFRIEND HASN'T BEEN OR DID ANYTHING FOR ME SINCE I FIRST TOLD HIM THAT I WAS PREGNANT NOW IN THE BEGINNING OF OUR RELATIONSHIP WE'VE TALKED ABOUT HAVING A BABY BUT HE REALLY WASN'T INTO GETTING ONE NOW THAT I AM PREGNANT HE CHANGED TREMENDOUSLY:tissue: I FOUNDED OUT THAT HE HAD CHEATED ON ME AND I GOT MAD AND BUSTED HIS 2006 TRUCK UP BECAUSE I WANTED HIM TO FEEL THE PAIN I FELT WHEN I FOUNDED OUT THAT HE HAD CHEATED BUT HE HAS NO PROOF THAT IT WAS ME THAT DID IT BUT HE HAS HIS ACCUSATIONS I KNOW I WAS WRONG FOR DOING IT BUT I WAS REALLY IN LOVE WITH HIM HE HAS A WARNING AGAINST ME (SOMETHING LIKE A RESTRAINING ORDER) FOR ME NOT TO CONTACT HIM OR HIS FAMILY FOR ANY REASON UNTIL AFTER THE BABY IS BORN:baby: BUT IF HE FEELS LIKE THAT SHOULD I HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY TO HIM WHEN THE BABY IS BORN I MEAN HE CHANGED HIS NUMBER I DON'T KNOW WHERE HE'S LIVING OR WHAT HE'S DOING I'VE WROTE LETTERS TO HIS PARENTS HOUSE STILL I GET NO RESPONSE I'M TO THE POINT NOW WHERE I'VE GIVEN UP I CANT MAKE SOMEONE LOVE OR DO FOR HIS CHILD THAT DOESN'T WANT TO DO RIGHT PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE THANKS Answer DimpleFace 2 554 7/1/07 4:42 am   Pregnant and hurting Question sexykitty 0 583 6/8/07 9:09 pm   Resources Question I was wondering if there is anywhere on the internet where a person can talk to other women going through some kind of abuse Thanks Lisa777 0 479 6/6/07 8:53 pm   I took my post off.... Question My husband and I have been married for 17 years We seem to communicate a lot better over the past five years and are good friends I have been in counseling for myself my husband refuses to go for himself it seems things have been changing within me The main problem that exists is he has no interest in having sex at all We have had our difficulties here and there over the years and I believed it was me who had the problem With counseling I was able to let a lot go i was sexually abused as a child and as an adult and felt I was very shut down but since working all that out I am willing and able and want to be with my husband With all the talking I have had with him asking why he has no interest in sex and he tells me he doesnt know I am in my forties and feel this is the best time of my life to feel free to be myself and willing to work with him with what he may want So many discussions so many questions and still no reason why he wont be with me I was always the one to initiate intimacy from the very beginning he wont initiate at all since realizing that it was me all the time I told him that it would be nice if he did once in a while it has been a year and half we have not been intimate at all i dont know what to do anymore It will be two years soon and I feel if we dont have that in our marriage what is the purpose He is so loving affectionate in other ways a kind caring man good father good provider good friend We do have our problems but I hate to see this end It truly is frustrating and i dont know how much more talking I can do he wont talk to a doctor he wont get help and wont talk about it I have to bring it up but have stopped since I feel I am talking to myself and tired of trying I do tease him thinking he will respond but he just laughs about it I thought most men would like that or would get the hint I also thought men need sex and want it i dont fell he is cheating it has crossed my mind and I did ask him he just doesnt seem to be that type of person Sorry this is so long I am truly frustrated and scared that once our children leave for college there will be nothing left between us as a couple friends yes a couple I just dont see it Could you give me some insight Thank you Or anyone else that may have been or are in the same situation doodledude 0 424 5/30/07 4:43 am   My marriage is in up in smoke Question I have been married to my husband for year and half He worked overseas and he came back for good a couple of months ago My husband is nice and kind and our sexual relationship is perfect Recently i have noticed that he hardly talks to me does not want to do anything with me and our sexual relationship has gone down south i have come to realize that I can not live like this I asked him plenty of time what is the problem and always says nothing Finally he opened up to me and told me that he did not think that marriage was going to be stressful and that he was happier when he was alone and that he thought marriage was the one thing missing in his life He feels that I am too passionate about things and he so ho hum about everything He is the one who wanted to get married so fast We did not live together first I wanted to see a counselor but he does not belive in counselors I was about to give up but did not He said that he could live the way are marriage is but I could not He agreeed to see a counselor Appointment was made a we were ready to go untill what I found out the night before He posted an ad friends with benefits on line that he paid for He told one person that he married outside his race( I am african american and he is caucasion) and that he misssed everything about a caucasion woman and emailed another and asked her what he could do for her At this point I am done I do not think we need to see a counselor at this point because he betrayed my trust the race situation really hurt my feelings bacause I asked him about that so many time during our engagement In your opionion do you think I should just let him go or still try to work it out Answer Crystal 1 500 5/24/07 4:14 pm   My mom Question I am beginning to have problems in my relationship but I know what is causing them I love my mother and she is my best friend but she wont butt out She knows everything about me If i don't tell her things when she asks she gets mad at me She has to know everything that is going on in my life Right now my boyfriend and I are discussing moving in together which my mother is completely against I understand her point of view but she seems to think that I should change my mind just because that's what she wants I'm a big girl now and have lived on my own for some time but she still wants to run my life I know that she just wants to protect me but I need her to let me go and figure things out on my own I am constantly stressed because of her She calls me at least 5 times a day to tell me the same thing over and over how she doesn't want me to live with my boyfriend She makes me feel like she hates him and the stress that she is causing me is now coming up in my relationship with my boyfriend I need to tell her to back off but I don't know how to without hurting her feelings I don't want her to be mad at me anymore but I want to have a life of my own Please help Answer Lost 2 584 5/15/07 7:39 pm   i need help Question my husband cheated on me with my best frieand on january 07 now is may 07 he ask for forgiveness i toll him i will give him a second chance only because im pregnat i use to love him very much now i dont feel nothing for him after seen him in my home doing what he did i wish i can run but this is my 3 child with him im strugoling with anger and hurt he say he is so sorry but thats not enough for my pain :tissue::tissue:email Answer 2 523 5/9/07 4:36 pm   lost and confused Question i went into the hospital a few weeks ago because i went into preterm labor and my new husband of two weeks at the time left me to go home and talk to girls inappropriatly on the internet instead of being with me he also told my two best friends he was interested int them and wanted a sexual relationship with them he dines that part but everything else he came clean about cuzz i found it all i am so hurt and cant get over it i think hes doing it all the time i dont trust him at all b4 this i thiought everything was great now i wonder how many other times and irls but he said this was the only time and that he did it cuzz it was like a game and he didnt think he deserved me and wanted me to find out and leave him but wen i found out and he saw how hurt i was he says he realized he didnt wantme to go but he also says that he didnt think i realy loved him and only married him cuzz i thought he was my last chance but i told him how important and sacred marrage is to me im losing my mind i dont know what to do am i just being stupid should i stay should i go i need some help this is tearing me up inside he says he loves me and only wans to b with me for the rest of his life but i dont know if hes telling me the ruth anymore thank u for your time Answer misshalberg 1 488 5/17/07 8:21 pm   ?? Question My husband has no job has not had one for 3 years I work full time I am now pregnant He helps around the house some but not much What can I do or say to really make an impact on him to find a job I don't want to cause a big fight but I guess I want to sit him down and talk to him He always gets mad and thinks I am nagging him when I ask him about a job It is hard to find jobs around here but you would think he would take anything he could get at this point for now anyway I wouldn't say stay in a job you hate He is 36 I am 35 He signed up at a temp agency he said they would email him with jobs he said they havent emailed him yet Do you think it would look bad if I asked the temp agency to email me as well when they email him Thanks Answer Lisa777 1 470 5/19/07 3:04 pm   What Can I Do? Question I love my husband is the greatest and I would be a fool to ever leave him Unless he cheated or something anyway in August 2001 I recieved an head injury while at work He took care of me and supproted me the whole time and we married in March of 02 The problem is in 2004 I was put on permanent disability and have been home ever since I was like the superwoman of my field and was very successful and without that income I feel vey stressed beogicause we cannot afford the thins we use to even though we have a 1 1/2yr old son and another on the way I feel so sorry for my husband and our situation that i encourage him to leave me sort of to save hisself I love him so much that I dont want him to be scraping by for the rest of his life his response is always never and I know that my reasoning is not logical With every bill I get frustrated because I cant help pleas help me deal wwith these feelings I also get jealous sometimes because he gets to work and I cant Its like that independant woman in myself wont quiet herself and feels cheated in life which is why it took so long for me to stop working when the Dr would say you cant work I would ignore him I thought that I would totally heal one day What can I do before I force my husband out last wek I told him I wasnt happy anymore but I didnt mean with him I meant with our financial situation I dont want to hurt him but I do believe that he deserves better Answer DSAJGA 1 463 5/15/07 7:26 pm Page 1, 2, 3, 4, 5

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