Angela Monti Fox, LCSW Having practiced psychotherapy for over 25 years with a specialization in sexual healing and problems with intimacy, she now devotes full time to the practice of mind/body medicine, birthing with hypnosis, as well as clinical hypnotherapy, solution/focused psychotherapy and couples counseling. read more

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Page 1, 2, 3, 4, 5   love/relationship expert   Thread Posted by Replies Views Date   it not the same with me and my babyfather. Question when i frist meet my baby father me and him was like best friends when he found out i was pregnant he wanted me to have a abortion but i woundnt now that im carrying he no i have to depend on him for every thing its like he dont have no respeact for me He lies to me about females then turn around i find out it more to it with these females that leads us to physical fights and aggurments That lead us both saying we dont want to be togather they tell me not to stress but how can i not When u give ur heart and all to a person The person just takes it apart with no remoise what should i do I'm tearing apart emotionally and physically misunderstood 0 790 8/8/07 6:07 pm   Jeolousy Question My husband and I have been married for 10 year and expecting our 3rd baby   I love him alot but I am very jeolous   Girls at his work talk to him and give him things well just one girl   Should I worry she is supposed to be married   But she is always offering him rides taking him to lunch and giving him little things   Am I over exagerating   Anna 0 719 3/5/08 8:55 pm   hi sex drive Question ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years and i have a high sex drive but he tells me im too aggressive and he said it turns him off plus he said we should space the sex or it will get boring but what about my needs what am i suppose to do im always in need lizz 0 880 3/12/08 4:38 am   ??? Question My husband sleeps about 3 days in a row only to get up to go to the bathroom and eat he is EXTREMELY CRABBY and MEAN when he is up he does this about every 1 to 2 months It is so hard to be around him I have a 16 year old daughter from a previous relationship and a 6 week old baby He seems normal on the days he is not doing this Is he bipolar On a side note he has herpes and gets them on his lower back when he gets them or right before getting them he gets this way could this be the cause of this somehow NOTHING changes his mood not even our 6 week old baby girl :(   Lisa777 0 533 2/9/08 6:14 pm   can i date a married man?he told me he crazy for me and doesnt care if his wife knows Question can i date a married man he told me he crazy for me and doesnt care if his wife knows brownish 0 648 1/30/08 4:52 pm   less sex Question Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years now i am older than him by4 years i am 32 now and he seems not to be sexually active when i asked him why he told me he likes to miss it but what about me i have a high sex drive lizz 0 506 3/6/08 1:52 am   Never had an orgasm Question Hi I am 24 years old and I am sexualy active since 20 I had 3 guys so far with two previous I slept only one time each but now I am in loving relationship I am expecting my first baby  and my partner and I are planing on getting married I love him to death and I can't imagine my life with nobady else but there is one problem I NEVER HAD AN ORGASM WITH HIM With other guys also not but with him I am bearly even "wet" He thinks that I am having orgasm almost every single time because I am pretending but I would like to have one at least It is imposible for me to get "horny" sometimes even And he is realy tring thats why I am pretending but I feel like something is missing How is it that I can make myself come in 4 min and with himI can't in 20 min And please don't tell me to talk to him because I can't I am too shy and besides I would die if he would found out that I was lying to him about having orgasm PLEASE HELP Tweety 0 798 11/15/07 5:50 pm   c-sections Question i had a c section 10 months ago and im now 7 almost 8 months pregnant doc said i had to have another  c section with this child problem is i m claustraphobic and during this process i was given a epidural and layed down and a warm blanket was drapped across my chest area then my arms were put on arm holders and iv's were put in  they kinda stapped my arms down for safety reasons i was told    long story short i freaked out and tried to sit up tore my arms out of the strap things and flung the blanket needless to say they put me out and continued with c section three hours later i got to see my baby so everybody in my family got to see my son before me i was upset is there anything i could do so that they don't have to put me out xxjudybootyna69 0 603 8/10/07 9:06 pm I CAN'T ENJOY SEX!!!!!!!! Question textHi i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half we have a 3 month old baby girl the problem is that when i was 7 months pregnant i caught him watching porn and that really hurt me i became obsesive and thought from then on that every time i couldnt have sex with him he would watch it again after i had my baby my sex drive decreased a lot i am 19 years old and i worry if this is normal i try really hard to enjoy sex with him but i just cant concentrate the image when i caught him always comes to my mind i really wanna work this out i want us to be a happy family i just dont know how to approach him on that i also wonder if it is because he wants to do what he saw on that porn and i definitely dont like that and every time he tries to penetrate me it hurts :tissue: what should i do please help me Answer 7 2127 5/8/07 6:13 pm   Attitude change in husband after baby Question Hi I have a beautiful 2 week old son that my husband and I are crazy about However for the past week my husband has been giving me an attitude doesn't communicate with me doesn't kiss me and leaves for work without saying anything It hurts and it is frustrating since I don't understand why he is doing this He does kiss the baby and my 8 year old daughter and gives them love  Also he doesn't like it that much that I'm breast feeding Before the baby he was affectionate and loving now it seems that he doesn't care about me Urs 0 492 3/7/08 9:28 pm   cheating Question I have been married for 3 5 years i really love him but i cant shake the feeling of him cheating and this is really affecting us that we talk about divorcs what is wrong with me 0 570 2/9/08 9:36 pm   scared of sex Question Hi Angela My husband and I have been married 3 years and for the past 2 have been trying to conceive   We have had two back to back pregnancies that have both ended in miscarriage resulting in 3 D&Cs (1st D&C failed and very painful)   After the 1st  miscarriage we waited about 3 weeks to have sex again which ended up being very painful in my cervix   (2 D&Cs in 3 days)  We waited another 1 5 weeks and tried again   Still very painful   Eventually it stopped hurting and we went on to conceive our 2nd pregnancy    The D&C for that miscarriage took place about 5 weeks ago    We have started resuming sex again but I've noticed several things    1)  my sex drive has lowered considerably    It used to be me that was always talking my husband into sex since my drive was higher now he's lucky if he can get me in the mood    It's not that I don't love him but that my sex drive is gone    Several times I've "given in" to him because I'd turned him down several days in a row and it's not that I hate sex   During sex I find myself waiting for him to finish and not really getting into it although still feigning arousal   2)  I find myself saying "ouch" when it doesn't really hurt   I feel like Im saying "ouch" almost in anticipation of pain but not actual pain    Almost like I have cervical pain skittishness   My husband and I have discussed everything I've written here (our relationship is like that) and he says  that perhaps the 2 miscarriages have turned me off to sex    That I am relating all the pain Ive gone through from multiple surgeries down there to the act of sex in my mind     I do miss my sex drive as it was a fiery part of my personality in our marriage    Now Im starting to feel like a roommate to someone I love cos I never want it   Advice   Kachic 0 529 1/31/08 6:39 pm   Am I Wrong? Question Ok after months of going through this I feel like I have to ask somebody that has a background in this type of thing   Iam a 27 year old male with a wife of the same age and a son who is 19 months   We have been together for ten years   My wife is trying to get a book published and at the same time takes care of our son while I am at work   When I get home from work I take over the little one along with the chores around the house (dishwashing cleaning etc) so she can focus on her work   The problem is that even after the little one has gone down permanently for the night she will continue to work until I finally give up and go to sleep   We have sex on average maybe twice a month if I'm lucky   If I bring it to her attention that I am wanting her or needing her more often then I am being unreasonable and don't respect that she is working on her career   If I sit back and don't bring it up then I am lucky if we are intimate once a month   I have tried to calmly explain that I'm feeling a little neglected not only because of this but also for the fact that the only conversation that she will 100 participate in is about what she is doing   I realize that she is busy but am I wrong for thinking that even if you are a writer and that is your occupation it's still a good idea to "come home" from your work once in a while Now I have done a lot of research on the general average of sexual frequency between couples with children   For the most part (realizing that is truly different from person to person) the national average seems to be in the neighborhood of about 1 2 times a week   I would cut off my left arm at this point for 1 2 times a week   I have expressed to her that yes men have needs but she will turn it back onto me that I am not respecting what she is doing   I would never ask the question; are we normal because normal is a very relative term but at this point I'm doubting myself   Am I being unreasonable   I don't ask her to drop everything that she is doing when I come through the door   I have supported her for ten years so she could persue her dream   Never asked her to work while we struggled to pay bills and keep food on the table   Because of that I feel I do respect what she is doing I am just asking for a little attention here and there   Should I just get over it   Expressing my feelings to her just seems to make things worse   So what do I do   Give up corvidmemory 0 616 11/19/07 10:54 pm   Haveing sex while pregnant Question Good day I am abt 12 weeks pregnant I dont  want to have sex before I am 100 sure that I / we would hurt / damage the baby in any way From when is it save to have sex without increasing your chances of misscaregace (Hope I have spelled the word correctly)   kind regards jessica jessie 0 700 12/3/07 9:38 am   I HAVE A PROBLEM! Question WELL I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START BUT I'LL TRY I'VE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND/BABY'S FATHER FOR 4 YEARS NOW BASICALLY I FEEL LIKE HE'S A JERK I FEEL LIKE IT MAY HAVE SOMETHING TO DO WITH THE WAY I LOOK IN THE BEGINNING HE WAS COOL AND THEN WHEN I GOT PREGNANT THE FIRST TIME HIS ATTITUDE STARTED TO CHANGE AND HE BECAME A 'DICK' FOR LACK OF A BETTER WORD LONG STORY SHORTER NOW WE 2 CHILDREN TOGETHER (WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING ) WE DON'T HAVE ANY INTIMACY TO ME ANYWAY HE TOLD ME THAT HE 'LOVED' ME AT FIRST I BELIEVED IT BUT NOW I'M SKEPTICAL WHY DO I ALWAYS HAVE TO BEG YOUR ASS FOR SOME PHYSICAL ATTENTION THATS THE QUESTION I ASK HIM OFTEN   WHAT DO YOU THINK THAT I SHOULD DO MY LEASE IS UP AT MY APARTMENT IN MARCH '08 AND I WAS THINKING OF MOVING TO NORTH CAROLINA WITH MY FAMILY AT LEAST THERE I WILL HAVE SOME HELP WITH MY LITTLE ONES WHAT WOULD BE THE POINT OF STAYING HERE INDEPENDENTLY I CAN DO THIS ON MY OWN I'M SMART LIKE THAT MY ONLY PROBLEM IS THAT YOU SAID YOU LOVED ME SO ACT LIKE IT WHAT DO YOU SUGGEST specialmom07 0 538 11/18/07 10:06 pm   is he lying? Question here i go with my complaints of the day i am happily married; we have one kid and one on the way in the past 3 years we were very much involved in a group of friends some single some married etc (we are not anymore now ) there were 2 single women that i really came to care about because i felt they were really nice people and yet didnt understand why they were single i have invited one of the women call her woman A to my home on countless basis woman A is best friends with woman B woman B is very nice but although i felt compassion to her as a friend i dont think she saw me like that these women has given us generous gifts in the past whenever we invite them to our occassions incident 1: woman B bought a house and invited us over and because we have never given her a gift before i thought we should give her painting; which we did; when she send an email msg to thank us she only send the email to my dh and forgot to include me in the email address but she mentioned me in the "hello bla and bla" incident 2: during the soccer world cup we got invited to a friends house to watch the game and also to welcome their new arrival we brought our dd with us i was holding our dd while dh watch the game in the living room; i came to the living room unannouced and found woman B sitting comfortably on the floor but inbetween my dh's legs immediately she saw me she jumped to the sofa as if she has seen a ghost   i found it REALLY weird and uncomfortable incident 3: ok after the game everyone came to the backyard and we announced we were taking a family trip; woman B approached me and said she would like to join us on our family trip which i found really weird because i wasnt best friends with her; dh and i were discussing all of these incidents; he thought i should let go of incident 1 as he thinks woman B forgot on incidents 2 and 3 he claimed he doesnt remember; i agree with him not remembering incidents 2 because when i came to the room he was very fixated on the game as his team was loosing on incidents 3 he found it to be weird three weeks ago we met with some friends who are also part of the group; and the dw asked me if i have spoken to woman B lately; the funny thing is ever since my dh and i have known woman B i have never called her to chat; like i said she seems nice when we meet in the group but i always feel she never saw me as a friend if at all with all the incidents i described she looks like she was coming unto my dh like take for instance last night i mentioned i almost told all of the above incidents of woman B to the rest of the group dh thought there was no need; he claims he doesnt feel comfortable for me to say stuff like this to everyone not that he is protecting woman B; the reason is he doesnt want his name to be part of a rumour even though he knows he is innocent and did nothing wrong so my question is do you think dh never knew woman B was coming unto him like he claims or he gave hints and signs to woman B for her to come unto him as in he is equally guilty and he is lying sorry the msg got long thanks abena abena 0 579 10/25/07 12:22 pm   I feel like we are roomates Question me and my husband used to get along so great before we had our baby in July now we cant be in th same room without fussing i feel like he doesnt appreciate me and i know that i lost all respect and trust for him because he has lied to me I dont want to raise our sweet baby in arguements all the time he doesnt deserve it I dont want him to come from a broken home but i for sure dont want him to be raised in one so confused  Answer kellb 1 587 11/12/07 8:57 pm   husband watching adult programs Question My husband has addictive behavior   Lately I catch him in the middle of the night watching adult programs on cable with nudity   I will walk into the living room at midnight and ask him what he was just watching because he will frantically turn the channels   There is no doubt what he is doing but he lies about it   This behavior frustrates me more than normal because he professes to be Chrisitian man   I am partly at fault for still sleeping  in bed with our three year old daughter but if she is not there in the middle of us my husband would come to bed and wake me up at odd hours in the night for sex like 1 AM or 4 5AM   He has since loss much affection towards me and it is like we are roommates at times   He is impossible to talk to and manipulative with the counselor when we do go to counseling  We were nearly divorced for his alcoholism 2 1/2 years ago that he no longer gets any sort of help for   WHat am I to do kim 0 541 11/7/07 1:46 pm   Unhappy husband Question We've been together for six years but married for two years   Just the other day my husband told me he is not happy in our marriage   I asked him why and he could not pin point a thing   But the other day he just said our marriage is not fulfilling because we don't communicate much   However he goes to visit his friends and comes home at 12 or 1 am when I'm already asleep   Now how can I communicate with him yet he only  comes home when I'm sleeping or to sleep We have a house together and he has two kids who only come home on weekends and we both have good jobs   Can you please advise me on what to think about this whole thing   It is really stressing me out   I've told him several time that I'd like to stay married and work thru whatever it is that he is not happy about   I mean what exactly do I do in this situation Please help Noma 0 580 8/22/07 12:38 am   am not wanting to be with my boyfriend Question Hello was just wondering I am 31 weeks pregnant and about a month ago I went into the dr and they said that I had tested positive for Gonaria well I confronted my boyfriend only learning that he had cheated on my with a stripper named Shendel   I love him alot we have been togethor for 5 years and have 2 kids and a baby on the way   Now I dont trust him at all   He constantly brings her name up and compares me to her   Is it normal not to have feelings for him   He can be really nice sometimes other times its like I just want him gone I know my hormones are wierd but I dont know how to go about learning how to trust him again   Please help me Answer tamann 1 682 9/19/07 9:56 pm   relationship w-sig other Question We recently welcomed our baby into our lives & we are both in awe of him  that isnt where the problem is my significant other is completly in love with our newborn & would do anything for him However he & I still don't get along that well I thought that when our newborn arrived my other half would wake up & realize that he needs to treat me better he constantly talks down to me among other things Why doesn't he realize that he needs to treat me with respect & show me respect as well I will not let my child grow up thinking it's ok to do this to someone you "love" My question is how long should I give him to change his ways before giving up & leaving him I am hestitant to leave due to the fact that I have a son with my ex & don't want both my kids without their dads but I believe it's better to leave than to let them grow up with their parents fighting constantly& disrespecting each other Am I the one who is wrong in my thinking How should I handle a grown man who still hasnt fully grown up   Will he ever be the man I want after all he is 35&not getting any younger I on the other hand am only 23 & wanti a stable environment for myself & these 2 precious children I want to be a wife but not to someone who doesnt respect me or my wishes How long do I wait mommagucci 0 534 8/27/07 11:10 pm   no sex Question i am 8 months pregnent but me and my husband have not had sex in over a month this really bothers me i dont get aroused when he touches me and when i am in the mood as soon as i see him i am turned off when we were having sex i was not enjoying it at all it was just him behing me and i just felt used i love my husband we have been together for 7 years and it really bothers me that we are not having sex before sex was not that enjoyable to me anyways but now its worse please help laura 0 589 10/2/07 12:14 am   mom wants a child and dad doesn't Question Angela I desperately need someone's input here For about five years or so I've wanted to have another child but my husband was either laid off or between jobs Now he has a permanent job so I've been bugging him again He agreed to 'let what happens happen' and we have now for a little over a year I had a miscarriage in December and a chemical pregnancy in April Now he is very disheartened and does not want to have anymore kids at all We have a healthy eight year old boy who I never had any trouble with I just saw my OBGYN yesterday and he said that all of my tests came back fine but that I have 'thick' blood He has told me to take baby aspirin and that he woudl give me Heperin should I become pregnant I'm ready to start again now but my husband refuses What can I do I feel heart broken Please help Thanks Suzanne Answer suzanne32 3 765 5/30/07 5:30 pm   withholding affection Question I wish my husband was more involved with our children Our daughter is 4 and our son is 2 He seems to have problems getting involved in any activities with them and with showing them affection Can you help raj 0 535 9/27/07 6:45 pm   Problems with over-protective boyfriend!! Question I have a few issues that I really don't know where to begin My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year We get a long great unless it involves one issue: me being friends with other guys Even when I have tried introducing him to them letting him know what my plans are (i e lunch or a drink) or explaining how I know these friends (basically anything that I can do to make him more comfortable with the situation) he still makes a huge issue out of it I have known my friends since before him I haven't made new guy friends since we've been together No matter what I do he still starts an argument that turns into an almost break up He feels that I put them before him (which is far from the truth) he always comes first and he thinks that he should be the only man in my life I have explained to him that I will not choose I will not choose either him or my friends If he doesn't feel comfortable with the situation then he can walk It always comes back to him saying later I need to work on my issues and except that they are your friends and trust you But it never happens because it keeps coming up My question is should I just accept the fact that he will never change and just realize that it's not going to work It's very hard for me because I do love him very much (Ah the cliche line of the century) Please offer whatever advise you can Thank you so much :)Mom! 0 551 9/20/07 7:49 pm   Really frustrated Question On May 31st I had my baby girl and in August I went to work My husband and I agreed that he would be at home Dad but when I get home the house is not cleaned and he expects me to do everything including taking care of the baby I mean don't get me wrong I love my daughter but I think he is expecting to much from me and it's wearing me out What should I do what should I say to him about what I'm thinking missnicegirl1980 0 539 9/19/07 3:19 am   He does not Get Me AT ALL! Question There is so much I want to say here but really what my biggest issue is that my husband does not get who I am He has always tried to mold me into the perfect little wife He never wanted me to have any sort of life outside our marriage Tonight he says too me "I do not understand Mommies Night out why do moms need to go out without their husbands" I am not an advocate for mommies night out but I was very offended by his comment He thinks that he being my husband makes him my controller I cannot identify any needs outside our relationship There is a HUGE double standard especially when he says in the same sentence that he wanted too have a beer later with th guys All this transpired over dinner of which I invited him SO my problem is this how can I get him to understand that his comments are hurtful and basically his double standards and total misunderstanding of who I am have driven me to leave him RockStarMom 0 762 4/14/07 12:07 am   Spice things up Question My Husband and I were married on Oct 21 2006 and I found out I was pregnant that November   We have been together for almost 7 years   We have been through everything together good and bad   He is my world besides my new amazing daughter   Well my issue is since we have had our daughter our love life is a little dull   Any advice on how to keep the spice in our marriage   I don't want to loose the Mommy and Daddy time :) Little Morgan 0 570 9/13/07 11:29 pm   My husband likes to taste my Breast milk!! Question Hi I am 30 yrs two kids younger one is 11 months I have wonderful relationwith my husband Loves cares very affectionate Very sort of hot  and satisfying  We a have a good married and sexual life I have 2 Questions  1 My husband enjoys to have my breast milk  Is it ok Any problems related to that    2 Also wants it to keep on for a little long if safe Now baby has reduced  breastfeeding so theres very less milk How can I keep lactation on for a few months Also kindly advise wether there  are any mild and safe medication (pill syrup) which can help keep the lactation on for a few more months (without side effects) I feel embarrassed to ask anyone Recently while surfing I found this site and you Angela Hope you will reply in detail Thanks PA 0 830 8/2/07 4:03 pm   husband help! Question I am 39 weeks pregnant and i am having problems leting my husband in on anything at all he pushed me away for about the first 7 months and now he acts like im an inconvenience because he cant do what he wants i have a friend who understands and i'll go to her before him and now he's getting mad because i want her in the delivery room aswell as him because he shows me no emotional support how is this affecting us heatherd20 0 543 8/31/07 4:50 pm Page 1, 2, 3, 4, 5

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