I have emailed you in the past regarding my marriage.  We  have tried reconciling and the same old things return,  Is this an issue of compatibility  with us or a deeper seated issue mainly with him that leads him to control and manipulate?

Hi Kim,

It's a deeper issue - but not just about him.  On a Spiritual level we create relationships as a way to learn what it is that we are here to learn and what we want to heal in order to evolve as Spiritual beings. 

If we are unconscious to what we are working on we tend to go around and around recreating the same dynamic over and over until we learn what it is we are trying to learn.

Since you are writing to me, let's look at what you are trying to learn, rather than focusing on what he is doing.  First is learning and acknowledging that you are lovable and that you don't have to give up your power in order to experience love.  Second is creating relationships that allow you to shine rather than reinforce your fear of shining.  There are several other pieces but that would take a whole reading to look at.  With these two pieces you are creating relationships that challenge you to stand in your power and be who you are.  We can do that in two ways we can create a dynamic to push against (which is what you have done) or you can acknowledge consciously what you are worthy of and allow yourself to have a meaningful, fulfilling relationship with someone who wants to celebrate who you are rather than break it down. 

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