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Husband has no patience with baby

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My husband is a very impatient person and he seems to be getting worse now that we have a 6 month old EVERYTHING makes him mad when she wiggles while he tries to change her when she won't be still while he is holding her if she wakes up when he puts her down if she keeps dropping her pacifier (he throws it across the room ) and if she won't stop crying etc etc etc I am afraid to leave her with him because I don't want him to freak out or get mad I am noticing that I do things differently now to avoid the possibility of him getting mad For instance he will ask if I want him to hold her or get her dressed and I say no I'll do it just to avoid him getting mad I am a nervous wreck and can't relax or enjoy myself if I have to leave her with him for a couple of hours I don't know what to do or how he can fix it I just don't understand why he can't just relax a little and understand that she is a baby and this is what they do

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Single Mom

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I’m a single mother with a 10 year old son His father and I are separated and he moved to Vegas Lately my son has seemed really upset about the situation I try to explain to him that his dad is still his father and loves him very much but it doesn’t seem to be helping I know a divorce is a tough thing for any kid but is there anything I should be doing to ease the transition Thanks

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15 year old walking hormone

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I am a widow with 2 kids at home A 13 year old girl and a 15 year old boy My son has a my space page in which he has been talking to a girl that lives in Georgia I don't mind his chatting but lately he has gone into a fantasy world of him getting a job to pay for an airplane ticket for this girl to come and see him I have tried to explain how impossible this is and that if I were that girls parents that I wouldn't let her come out here to visit with strangers I don't want to make him feel bad or crush his spirit but I can't seem to find the right way to get through to him He has always been very sensitive and somewhat emotional If his Dad was alive I'm sure he would know what to say but I just can't seem to get it right Any ideas

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 1/27/09 10:23 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Baby father left

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Myboyfriend and I have been together just about 4 years He has been wanting a child with me ever since we met From different relationships we both have a child Well we recently found out that I was pregnant which was completely planned Well he ended up leaving yesterday to go stay at his mothers house He says he need to vent

I recently had to leave my job and he is the bread winner We havebeen argueing almost nonstop for about two weeks He keeps saying I am talking to him wrong but i really dont see how I am When ever he gets mad he yells and screams and he acts like he doesnt care about me Then the other night he was here at our house dring with his twin brother and his buddy I didnt mind it his brother was very hyper for some reason for 2 hours he kept pulling me pushing me poking me flicking me talk very loudly in my ear it was all in fun I understood that Well several times I asked his brother to stop I even asked my boyfriend to get his brother to stop it didnt and finally I lashed out I yelled at his brother and told him to stop I have never yelled at his brother before I finally reached the my breaking point with someone messing with me Well my boyfriend got mad at me because I yelled at his brother

M boyfriend was yelling at me for yelling at his brother His brother was taken back from me yelling at him but he understood and saidthat was fine and was trying to calm my boyfriend down Well instead of me making matters worse by yelling back at him i ended up leaving I went and stayed at his brothers house (oddly enough his brother came with me to his house) Well through the course of the night my boyfriend called and hung up I called back and he thought he hit silent but actually picked up the phone I was on the phone for about 2 hours and I heard everything that was going on Turns out he was picked up by his ex girlfriends best friend and was taken over to his ex's house

I called and spoke to the ex she said yes he came over nothing happened they hadnt seen each other in a while (this is the same ex that has caused many problems throughout our relationship) I feel very betrayed about this he denies seeing her The next day I spoke to him on the phone and was very calm about him seeing his ex I told him he had a choice to make it's me and this baby or its just you He said I want you come pick me up ( he went to his mothers) I said no you got yourself there you get yourself back Well he called me after I lost my temper with him lieing to me and he said he was going to stay at his mothers house he's going to pick up is things and get the groceries he bought the day before

He eventually came over and did just that took his things and all the groceries I dont know what to do I believe he is being very selfish and very immature especially taking all of the food in the house I mean everything he bought from cheese to hot chocolate

Part of me wants him to come back but the other is saying no absolutely not I dont want to be a single parent to another child but i feel like I am going to have to be Should I really just take this as he is overwhelmed with expecting another child and doesnt know what to do or that he has betrayed and stepped out on me

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 1/25/09 9:53 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

i'm worried

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i'm worried that after my husband and i have our baby that he is going to cheat on me due to lack of sex Help any advice

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jealous step son

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my oldest son feels betrayed by my husband now that the baby is here my oldest son is 7 and we have a 2 week old now how do i explain to my husband that he needs to divide his time equally between the two boys There is a 25 year age difference between my husband and myself i feel that part of it is because at age 48 my husband just became new first time father and our oldest son was my child from a previous relationship and he adopted him he's not blood I'm not sure how men think when it come to step children and adopted children so i'm now sure how to handle this situation please help us

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He wants a baby He want a baby now good buy

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We have been togather for 3 years He tells me avery day for one year he wants a baby he wants to be the best dad So now Im 8 10 weeks Thats gr8 he says then he tells me he loves me but hes not in love with me He just wants to be friends and he is still trying to tell me where to live WHAT is going on with him

Expert Post Viewd: 905 Posted: 4/14/08 11:14 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

new dad

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Hello My fiance and I are expecting in september This is his first child and my second How can I get him to understand why I have had such a hard time with this pregnancy I have been so sick that most days I can't even hold my head up which has caused serious strain on the relationship as well as the household chores that I do All I get are stmart comments and arguments Any advice

Expert Post Viewd: 1005 Posted: 2/15/08 5:40 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

don't like his son's behavior

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HELLO MY HUSBAND AND I BOTH HAVE CHILDREN FROM FIRST MARRIAGES MY KIDS ARE 7 AND 3 HIS KIDS ARE 13 AND 9 WE ARE HAVING OUR 1 BABY TOGETHER MY PROBLEM IS THAT THE 9 YEAR OLD IS A LITTLE BRAT I NOTICE HOW HE TREATS MY SON THE 7 YEAR OLD HE TELLS HIM WHAT TO DO HOW TO DO IT WHEN TO DO IT HOW OFTEN WELL YOU GET MY POINT BUT THATS NOT THE BIG PROBLEM HE ALSO SAYS BAD WORDS TO HIS FATHER LIKE F U A HOLE YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN I HAVE TOLD MY HUSBAND THAT I DON'T LIKE IT HE JUST SAYS THAT THATS THE WAY HIS MOTHER IS BRING IN HIM UP AND I;M JUST FED UP BY IT I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO SAY I JUST FEEL THAT I DON'T LIKE HIM WHEN EVER HE COMES TO MY HOUSE I JUST PRETEND TO BE BUSY AND I GO TO WALMART OR WHERE EVER JUST TO GET MY SONS AND MY SELF AWAY FROM HIM HELP

Expert Post Viewd: 616 Posted: 12/3/07 5:09 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

how do I tell him how I feel

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My boyfriend and I have a beautiful 4 month baby boy In respects to the previous question (fair ) I have a similar situation I am a recent stay home mom previously a recent college grad beginning my career so I’m really used to making my own money and decisions Ever since my son was born I feel like a 10 year old asking my boyfriend for money to manage our son and household He never says "no” to anything I ask for it just feels weird What really does bother me is that when I ask for his help he protests he is the "bread winner” and tired of his long workday How can I express my feeling towards him Or am I asking for too much Another thing is we have talked about marriage but it has just been that talk I need to find out if he is really serious am I rushing into things Or is our newborn baby still an overwhelming factor HELP

Expert Post Viewd: 725 Posted: 11/6/07 5:53 am Posted by: Replies: 1

soon to be superdad in need of help

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For living in a small town i can personally tell you that there is not alot of jobs here For a newly father in the making i can tell you that SUCKS my wife is the only one working and she is pregnant she is supermom i am trying to find a job i tried everywhere and still can't find a job she got her job there though her mom who also works there me i can't find squat i keep hearing about this "work at home" jobs they sound great but can i trust them any suggestions i need something soon or something bad will happen i love my wife and i want whats best for her and little kayda please help

Expert Post Viewd: 675 Posted: 10/27/07 8:19 am Posted by: Replies: 1

sleep

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My son is 2yrs old and one month and he is having trouble sleeping through the night I have read countless books (easy 2 do as he wont sleep ) and tried a variety of methods We stick to the same routine every night Last thing before bed we have wind down time and he has a bottle of warm milk Shortly after we put him to sleep in his cot So initially there is no problem he doesnt protest and actually goes down quite calmly Roughly 2 hours or more after he has gone down he will wake up and start crying and wont stop until someone retrieves him We check on him and there is nothing wrong So we decided we would try a different method let him cry it out So that sounds pretty logical you would think that he would cry for less time or realise nobody is coming and give it up Not my son he will keep continuously crying eventually he falls asleep but then a few hours later he starts again Sometimes we give in and bring him to our bed once he is in the comfort of our bed he falls asleep immediately and sleeps through How do we get him to sleep through on his own Sleep deprivation is killing us

During the day he gets plenty of activity and has even stopped having his afternoon nap We have also tried several different routines What we find is that the majority of textbooks etc all focus on the putting down thats the only bit we have got sussed its the sleeping through that is causing us problems

Any help and advice would be appreciated

Many thanks

Raj

Expert Post Viewd: 567 Posted: 9/27/07 6:38 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

dad jealous of mom

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We have a 2 year old boy that just reasently went into a big boy beb And my husband is getting mad that our son does not want him to comfort him at night or any other time When our son need comfort he comes to mom My husband says our son does not love him like he love me and he gets mad I tried to explain that since our son has been born I have been the one that comforts and my husband is one he goes to for play I dont know how to explain it to my husband or how to top him from feeling not needed I know our son loves his Dad very much And if I'm not around then he will go to Dad for comfort

Expert Post Viewd: 618 Posted: 7/30/07 1:56 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

my husband

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my husband and I just had our 1st child She was stillborn We had been trying for a year and a half When i had my baby it was hard on me but really hard on my husband He wont talk to me or anyone about the way he feels about it and he has gone back to some of his old habits which break my heart How can i try and let him know that i dont think i can live with his old habits again

Expert Post Viewd: 906 Posted: 6/22/07 3:52 am Posted by: Replies: 1

New to this

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Hi

My husband and I recently found out we are pregnant He was so excited at first he has been wanting to have a child for so long It was actually me who was postponing it SO I can say that he was very suprised and excited when it came back positive

My question is He was wonderful about it for the first few weeks Now that I am 9 weeks into the pregnancy I have been very sick and tired He has to do a few more things around the house including figuring out something to eat for dinner because I can't even eat let alone cook He seems to resent me sleeping in or putting my feet up on the couch Before the pregnancy I was "super wife" working full time school full time and still doing his laundry and cooking for the two of us Now things have changed and he is getting somewhat bitter

Any advice

Sarah

Expert Post Viewd: 1447 Posted: 1/21/07 6:02 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

Fair

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Me and my husband have 2 children a very rambunctious 2 1/2 year old and a 4 mo old im a stay at home mom and hubby works full time at his job am i selfish to think that he should have to help out with some of the childcare when he gets off work he usually comes home showers i put dinner on the table clean up and make his lunch but he thinks that in the midst of all of this i should be taking care of the kids while he sits there with his feet up watching t v i dont agree with this staying at home is like 2 fulltime jobs and he thinks its easy hes driving me nuts on the weekend its always this is my 2 days off i work 50 hrs a week like i dont he doesnt seem to understand that i need a break from cooking cleaning breastfeeding and pottytraining sometime because i get to sit down all day and he doesnt but to be honest im working just as hard as he is just a different kind of environment am i being unfair/ selfish to think this what should i do

Expert Post Viewd: 757 Posted: 6/26/07 4:56 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

gnc vit

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my husband works out and is average weight i was wondering if all the muscle reparing replacement meal drinks our good for him when we are trying to conceive is there any affect from them

joanna:sumo:

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Parenting Tips For Mad Dad

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My husband and I have very different ways to discipline our 1 1/2yr old He believes that I am way too easy with him but then again I stay home with him I believe that my husband is way too hard on him How can I help him to ease up and realize our son is still a baby without seeming like a know it all I feel now my son knows mommy will come to the rescue if daddy gets mad and I would rather our parenting be as in sync as possible or we will regret it later

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Husband's Financial Habits Need Improvement

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:hug:As a wife it my job to encourage my husband to do his best in everything he does What can I say to him to help him understand that his financial habits affect our present and future When we first got married I didn't think it was a big deal because I felt that as long as I saved and budgeted we were alright But since half our savings was used when we relocated across the country a year ago and our combined salaries are lower than one of our salaries prior to our move things are getting tight We're living paycheck to paycheck and can't even afford to put money aside for savings We want to buy a house now This is where I realized that I need to push him to improve his credit It's not the credit score alone that I'm concerned about it's the things that have made the score low Things like not paying bills at all Ignoring the Dept of Education when they call He bought a time share (against my approval) while he wasn't working and now he's way behind in payments but won't call them to work something out I get all those messages not him He'd rather pretend they're not calling I write his messages and place them in a place he can see them but I can't make his choices for him I don't want to nag even though I feel the urge to I don't want to beat him over the head even though I feel the urge to I have told him that he should at least call these agencies and see if something can be worked out and that he needs to stop relying soley on my good credit score when we concsider making major financial purchases when he can work on pullin his up What can I do or say to a stubborn husband who was raised in a poor family and led to believe that because you worked hard to earn your money you it's okay to spend it frivolously And that it's okay to borrow money from someone sign a contract saying you'll pay them back then take the money and run
Help

Expert Post Viewd: 1348 Posted: 5/1/07 3:31 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

Lost nd not sure what to do

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I've been walkin in a circle for a while over all this but heres my story I got pregent when i was 15 left school( for other reason) my sons father just got out of Juvy at the time nd he was in the drug seen pretty bad wasnt sure of it at the time but learned as i was with him we where together for 3yrs he stayed true to the drugs quit off and on but a year ago i had enough of it all nd went back home everything went fine for the most part till he got jelouse of me dating and kidnapped Brandon he was only a yr old but it was alot at the time i got a PFA so i could get him back but since then he was putting me throw alot a guy that had nothing to do with us all of a sudden was playing super dad well 8 months ago he went to rehab cause his mom kicked him out nd he had no more money so that was his way back in to his parents house( he knew how to work the system) the day of our custody heiring he robbed a gas station and is now sittin in State prison or boot camp im really close with his mother and when my sons father calls over there Brandon will sit and talk to him but Brandon i feel is gettin alittle confused with all this( hes been hearing alot hes a smart lil boy) people think i should let him see him cause he'll b gone for a couple yrs but i really dont kno he hasnt seen his father for about 8 or 9 months now and im now engaged with someone else nd Brandon keeps bring up weird things is there away to make it easier for him to cope im really not sure how to handle it i want him to always know his dad but how do explain he compares his dad to his grandmothers father passing away please help i want the best nd i dont want him to be worried that im going to leave him thanc u Christina

Expert Post Viewd: 1324 Posted: 5/1/07 5:38 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

close to daddy

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I have a very important question to ask you My husband and I have 4 beautiful children My twin's are from my first marraige but my husband now love's them very much My question to you is this my husband and I have a 6 month old baby boy and I'v notice that my husband does not give our son attention I mean our son look's at him or if daddy is lying near our son he'll roll by daddy and grab his hand or face and dad just look's at him and give the baby a quick smile and that is it I bring this to his attention and he'll ignore me as well Could their be something wrong Sincerley hand's full

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Jealous Daddy

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I had a little girl Oct 24th 06 Her daddy has always craved my attention He use to get jealous when I would hang out with my family or friends Now that I have my daughter of course I am taking care of her needs He gets cranky and upset with me because I'm not spending any time with him Not to mention I had a c section with her and I just recently had my galbladder taken out I feel like when I do get time away from her then he is pulling me for attention What can I do to take care of my daughter give him attention and get some time alone as well

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hmmmm

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Mr Dad
Do you exist

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Question about Valentines Day

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Hi Armin

I'm a fairly new mom and find myself extremely busy with my first child Because of my new role as wife and mother I feel that I've in a way lost touch with my husband needless to say my best friend I just read your great tips
on how to reconnect with my husband thank you

To get the point at hand my husband in the past has always gone out of his way to go all out sparing no expense for Valentines day I realize that I'm extremely lucky in this manor however with the new baby this year I don't feel the expenditure is appropriate as I'd now prefer to put moneys away for our child's education Would you have any suggestions of how I could communicate this to him and suggest alternate scaled down ways to celebrate the holiday with hurting his feelings

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Trying to conceive

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Hi

I was wondering if my husband should be taking any vitamins or nutrients whilst we are trying for a baby
Or if there any helpful tips or hints for us to conceive sooner rather than later

Thank you

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trying to concieve

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Hi mr dad
Just wondering do men get as anxious about being able to get their partners pregnant as women get about it

also are there any vitamins/ nutrients to take or habits to avoid if a man is trying to get his partner pregnant

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What to get Daddy for Christmas

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Dear Mr Dad

What should I get my husband for Christmas from the kids

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