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mr. dad   Thread Posted by Replies Views Date   i'm worried Question i'm worried that after my husband and i have our baby that he is going to cheat on me due to lack of sex Help any advice stephmull 0 925 3/12/08 4:17 pm   He wants a baby, He want a baby now good buy?? Question We have been togather for 3 years He tells me avery day for one year he wants a baby he wants to be the best dad So now Im 8 10 weeks Thats gr8 he says then he tells me he loves me but hes not in love with me He just wants to be friends and he is still trying to tell me where to live WHAT is going on with him Answer Crystal 1 904 4/14/08 11:14 pm   new dad Question Hello My fiance and I are expecting in september This is his first child and my second How can I get him to understand why I have had such a hard time with this pregnancy I have been so sick that most days I can't even hold my head up which has caused serious strain on the relationship as well as the household chores that I do All I get are stmart comments and arguments Any advice Answer hbigler 1 1004 2/15/08 5:40 pm   don't like his son's behavior Question HELLO MY HUSBAND AND I BOTH HAVE CHILDREN FROM FIRST MARRIAGES MY KIDS ARE 7 AND 3 HIS KIDS ARE 13 AND 9 WE ARE HAVING OUR 1 BABY TOGETHER MY PROBLEM IS THAT THE 9 YEAR OLD IS A LITTLE BRAT I NOTICE HOW HE TREATS MY SON THE 7 YEAR OLD HE TELLS HIM WHAT TO DO HOW TO DO IT WHEN TO DO IT HOW OFTEN WELL YOU GET MY POINT BUT THATS NOT THE BIG PROBLEM HE ALSO SAYS BAD WORDS TO HIS FATHER LIKE F U A HOLE YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN I HAVE TOLD MY HUSBAND THAT I DON'T LIKE IT   HE JUST SAYS THAT THATS THE WAY HIS MOTHER IS BRING IN HIM UP AND I;M JUST FED UP BY IT I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO SAY I JUST FEEL THAT I DON'T LIKE HIM WHEN EVER HE COMES TO MY HOUSE I JUST PRETEND TO BE BUSY AND I GO TO WALMART OR WHERE EVER JUST TO GET MY SONS AND MY SELF AWAY FROM HIM HELP rockergirl 0 615 12/3/07 5:09 pm   how do I tell him how I feel? Question My boyfriend and I have a beautiful 4 month baby boy In respects to the previous question (fair ) I have a similar situation  I am a recent stay home mom previously a recent college grad beginning my career so I’m really used to making my own money and decisions Ever since my son was born I feel like a 10 year old asking my boyfriend for money to manage our son and household He never says "no” to anything I ask for it just feels weird What really does bother me is that when I ask for his help he protests he is the "bread winner” and tired of his long workday How can I express my feeling towards him Or am I asking for too much Another thing is we have talked about marriage but it has just been that talk I need to find out if he is really serious am I rushing into things Or is our newborn baby still an overwhelming factor HELP Answer NYMOMMY917 1 724 11/6/07 5:53 am   soon-to-be superdad in need of help!! Question For living in a small town i can personally tell you that there is not alot of jobs here For a newly father in the making i can tell you that SUCKS my wife is the only one working and she is pregnant she is supermom i am trying to find a job i tried everywhere and still can't find a job she got her job there though her mom  who also works there me i can't find squat i keep hearing about this "work at home" jobs they sound great but can i trust them any suggestions i need something soon or something bad will happen i love my wife and i want whats best for her and little kayda please help Answer to-be-super-dad 1 675 10/27/07 8:19 am   sleep Question My son is 2yrs old and one month and he is having trouble sleeping through the night I have read countless books (easy 2 do as he wont sleep ) and tried a variety of methods We stick to the same routine every night Last thing before bed we have wind down time and he has a bottle of warm milk Shortly after we put him to sleep in his cot So initially there is no problem he doesnt protest and actually goes down quite calmly Roughly 2 hours or more after he has gone down he will wake up and start crying and wont stop until someone retrieves him We check on him and there is nothing wrong So we decided we would try a different method let him cry it out So that sounds pretty logical you would think that he would cry for less time or realise nobody is coming and give it up Not my son he will keep continuously crying eventually he falls asleep but then a few hours later he starts again Sometimes we give in and bring him to our bed once he is in the comfort of our bed he falls asleep immediately and sleeps through How do we get him to sleep through on his own Sleep deprivation is killing us During the day he gets plenty of activity and has even stopped having his afternoon nap We have also tried several different routines What we find is that the majority of textbooks etc all focus on the putting down thats the only bit we have got sussed its the sleeping through that is causing us problems Any help and advice would be appreciated Many thanks Raj raj 0 566 9/27/07 6:38 pm   dad jealous of mom Question We have a 2 year old boy that just reasently went into a big boy beb And my husband is getting mad that our son does not want him to comfort him at night or any other time When our son need comfort he comes to mom My husband says our son does not love him like he love me and he gets mad I tried to explain that since our son has been born I have been the one that comforts and my husband is one he goes to for play I dont know how to explain it to my husband or how to top him from feeling not needed   I know our son loves his Dad very much   And if I'm not around then he will go to Dad for comfort alex's mom 0 618 7/30/07 1:56 pm   my husband Question my husband and I just had our 1st child She was stillborn We had been trying for a year and a half When i had my baby it was hard on me but really hard on my husband He wont talk to me or anyone about the way he feels about it and he has gone back to some of his old habits which break my heart How can i try and let him know that i dont think i can live with his old habits again Answer webadmin 1 905 6/22/07 3:52 am   New to this! Question Hi My husband and I recently found out we are pregnant He was so excited at first he has been wanting to have a child for so long It was actually me who was postponing it SO I can say that he was very suprised and excited when it came back positive My question is He was wonderful about it for the first few weeks Now that I am 9 weeks into the pregnancy I have been very sick and tired He has to do a few more things around the house including figuring out something to eat for dinner because I can't even eat let alone cook He seems to resent me sleeping in or putting my feet up on the couch Before the pregnancy I was "super wife" working full time school full time and still doing his laundry and cooking for the two of us Now things have changed and he is getting somewhat bitter Any advice Sarah Answer sarabear 1 1446 1/21/07 6:02 pm   Fair?? Question Me and my husband have 2 children a very rambunctious 2 1/2 year old and a 4 mo old im a stay at home mom and hubby works full time at his job am i selfish to think that he should have to help out with some of the childcare when he gets off work he usually comes home showers i put dinner on the table clean up and make his lunch but he thinks that in the midst of all of this i should be taking care of the kids while he sits there with his feet up watching t v i dont agree with this staying at home is like 2 fulltime jobs and he thinks its easy hes driving me nuts on the weekend its always this is my 2 days off i work 50 hrs a week like i dont he doesnt seem to understand that i need a break from cooking cleaning breastfeeding and pottytraining sometime because i get to sit down all day and he doesnt but to be honest im working just as hard as he is just a different kind of environment am i being unfair/ selfish to think this what should i do Answer Momma2AsiaNXander 1 756 6/26/07 4:56 pm gnc vit? Question my husband works out and is average weight i was wondering if all the muscle reparing replacement meal drinks our good for him when we are trying to conceive is there any affect from them joanna:sumo: joanna esquivel 0 1012 6/18/07 5:00 am   Parenting Tips For Mad Dad Question My husband and I have very different ways to discipline our 1 1/2yr old He believes that I am way too easy with him but then again I stay home with him I believe that my husband is way too hard on him How can I help him to ease up and realize our son is still a baby without seeming like a know it all I feel now my son knows mommy will come to the rescue if daddy gets mad and I would rather our parenting be as in sync as possible or we will regret it later DSAJGA 0 795 5/14/07 11:38 pm Husband's Financial Habits Need Improvement Question :hug:As a wife it my job to encourage my husband to do his best in everything he does What can I say to him to help him understand that his financial habits affect our present and future When we first got married I didn't think it was a big deal because I felt that as long as I saved and budgeted we were alright But since half our savings was used when we relocated across the country a year ago and our combined salaries are lower than one of our salaries prior to our move things are getting tight We're living paycheck to paycheck and can't even afford to put money aside for savings We want to buy a house now This is where I realized that I need to push him to improve his credit It's not the credit score alone that I'm concerned about it's the things that have made the score low Things like not paying bills at all Ignoring the Dept of Education when they call He bought a time share (against my approval) while he wasn't working and now he's way behind in payments but won't call them to work something out I get all those messages not him He'd rather pretend they're not calling I write his messages and place them in a place he can see them but I can't make his choices for him I don't want to nag even though I feel the urge to I don't want to beat him over the head even though I feel the urge to I have told him that he should at least call these agencies and see if something can be worked out and that he needs to stop relying soley on my good credit score when we concsider making major financial purchases when he can work on pullin his up What can I do or say to a stubborn husband who was raised in a poor family and led to believe that because you worked hard to earn your money you it's okay to spend it frivolously And that it's okay to borrow money from someone sign a contract saying you'll pay them back then take the money and run Help Answer ledwards 1 1346 5/1/07 3:31 pm Lost nd not sure what to do Question I've been walkin in a circle for a while over all this but heres my story I got pregent when i was 15 left school( for other reason) my sons father just got out of Juvy at the time nd he was in the drug seen pretty bad wasnt sure of it at the time but learned as i was with him we where together for 3yrs he stayed true to the drugs quit off and on but a year ago i had enough of it all nd went back home everything went fine for the most part till he got jelouse of me dating and kidnapped Brandon he was only a yr old but it was alot at the time i got a PFA so i could get him back but since then he was putting me throw alot a guy that had nothing to do with us all of a sudden was playing super dad well 8 months ago he went to rehab cause his mom kicked him out nd he had no more money so that was his way back in to his parents house( he knew how to work the system) the day of our custody heiring he robbed a gas station and is now sittin in State prison or boot camp im really close with his mother and when my sons father calls over there Brandon will sit and talk to him but Brandon i feel is gettin alittle confused with all this( hes been hearing alot hes a smart lil boy) people think i should let him see him cause he'll b gone for a couple yrs but i really dont kno he hasnt seen his father for about 8 or 9 months now and im now engaged with someone else nd Brandon keeps bring up weird things is there away to make it easier for him to cope im really not sure how to handle it i want him to always know his dad but how do explain he compares his dad to his grandmothers father passing away please help i want the best nd i dont want him to be worried that im going to leave him thanc u Christina Answer cutelilangel706 1 1323 5/1/07 5:38 pm close to daddy Question I have a very important question to ask you My husband and I have 4 beautiful children My twin's are from my first marraige but my husband now love's them very much My question to you is this my husband and I have a 6 month old baby boy and I'v notice that my husband does not give our son attention I mean our son look's at him or if daddy is lying near our son he'll roll by daddy and grab his hand or face and dad just look's at him and give the baby a quick smile and that is it I bring this to his attention and he'll ignore me as well Could their be something wrong Sincerley hand's full Answer hand's full 1 1312 4/8/07 5:28 am   Jealous Daddy Question I had a little girl Oct 24th 06 Her daddy has always craved my attention He use to get jealous when I would hang out with my family or friends Now that I have my daughter of course I am taking care of her needs He gets cranky and upset with me because I'm not spending any time with him Not to mention I had a c section with her and I just recently had my galbladder taken out I feel like when I do get time away from her then he is pulling me for attention What can I do to take care of my daughter give him attention and get some time alone as well Answer chubby monkey butt 4 718 1/14/07 7:38 am   hmmmm Question Mr Dad Do you exist Answer hopeful 1 1040 2/10/07 2:05 am Question about Valentines Day Question Hi Armin I'm a fairly new mom and find myself extremely busy with my first child Because of my new role as wife and mother I feel that I've in a way lost touch with my husband needless to say my best friend I just read your great tipson how to reconnect with my husband thank you To get the point at hand my husband in the past has always gone out of his way to go all out sparing no expense for Valentines day I realize that I'm extremely lucky in this manor however with the new baby this year I don't feel the expenditure is appropriate as I'd now prefer to put moneys away for our child's education Would you have any suggestions of how I could communicate this to him and suggest alternate scaled down ways to celebrate the holiday with hurting his feelings Answer Likes to dance 1 1564 2/8/07 1:35 pm   Trying to conceive Question HiI was wondering if my husband should be taking any vitamins or nutrients whilst we are trying for a baby Or if there any helpful tips or hints for us to conceive sooner rather than later Thank you Emm 0 1029 2/1/07 8:12 pm   trying to concieve Question Hi mr dad Just wondering do men get as anxious about being able to get their partners pregnant as women get about it also are there any vitamins/ nutrients to take or habits to avoid if a man is trying to get his partner pregnant Answer kylie 1 1189 1/8/07 2:59 am   What to get Daddy for Christmas Question Dear Mr Dad What should I get my husband for Christmas from the kids Answer WebGrl Mom 2 1141 12/5/06 4:29 pm

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