For single moms with kids, the idea of communal living can be very attractive. This alternative lifestyle is undergoing a renaissance due to a tough economy and a dramatic rise in unmarried mothers. Many single moms fall below the poverty line. By joining forces, two or more single moms can share an apartment or house affordably. If you are a mother undergoing a divorce, you can take control of your life through small concrete steps, such as getting moving quotes and selecting a neighborhood in which to live.
Here are four tips for finding a mommy-commune match:
- Locate the Single Moms: You can use services such as CoAbode to find out where the single moms are at. This online site features women with issues similar to yours. They, like you, need housing and the help of another adult. The site features specialized matching software that allows you to vet possible living partners.
- Use Craigslist: Sift out the weirdos, and you are left with a usable collection of candidates. Craigslist can definitely be useful for quickly finding the right match.
- Network with Friends and Family: Use your personal contacts as a support system to reach out to possible candidates. If you’ve ever looked for a college roommate, you already know how to go about doing this. Your friendw may be able to recommend online bulletin boards and forums where other single mothers are looking for you. If you and they share similar interests, you will have a better chance of locating the right person.
- Consider Different Housing Options: Besides picking a compatible roomie, you need to select a workable living space for your blended family. You will no doubt be very cost-sensitive, but if possible try to find a property where you have your own bathroom. Even better is a situation where you have your own living room or floor. The more space you have, the higher the chances that your living situation will be sustainable and comfortable.
When you blend families, be aware of possible problems and try to proactively address them. For instance, sibling rivalry may arise when you bring young children together. If the children are teenagers of the opposite sex, be alert to untoward behavior before it gets out of hand. And remember, your situation is not permanent. If problems arise, just look for another candidate and try again. Chances are that sooner or later you’ll find a good match.