I'm not exactly sure if this is the right place to post this question,  but I'm very confused.  I'm 23 weeks pregnant, and almost 21 yrs old.  I'm not sure if I should give my baby boy my boyfriends last name or mine, when he is born, Jan.21,2008.  My boyfriend and I have been together for just about 2 yrs, and this will be his third boy.  His first boy was a one night thing who he didn't even know about till the boy was 6mths, the boy doesn't have his last name but has been living with him for a couple of years.  The second son has the exact name as him but him and the ex gf broke up when the baby was a couple of months old.  I'm very confused by this, cause I don't want to hurt him or his families feelings, but I also don't want to go through problems if the eventually occur.  Thanks

I would give the baby your last name.  Most people I know don't give the.... Read More

Hi cutiecady,

I don't know if there is one way or a 'right' way of deciding this.  It seems to me that it would be helpful it you and your boyfriend were able to share your feelings about which name you want to give your baby boy.  You are very clear that you have concerns about what may happen down the road with your boyfriend and also your desire to be considerate of his feelings.  You didn't identify what your boyfriend wants to do and if he is open to hearing about and respecting your f.... Read More

This is a very hard question. The best advice I can offer is this......if you are going to marry this guy, then go ahead and give the baby his last name. However, if you are NOT going to marry him, I would give the baby YOUR last name. Just think of the future....if you don't stay with this guy and you are the primary caregiver, life would be easier if .... Read More