So... I think my DH and I are having intimacy problems during pregnancy. Last 2 out of 3 times we tried to be frisky which isn't often now-adays he stopped and made some excuse of why (uncomfortable, too hot, phone ringing at beginning distracted him too much, etc.). We had only had this happen maybe 2X in our entire marriage before I got pregnant. I am terrified after 9 years of marriage he is beginning to lose attraction to me. Or is this just a pregnancy thing? This is the first time I've even been pregnant and I am feeling ugly, rejected, and worried he is falling out of love with me.  Do men get weird during pregnancy? What could be causing the problem?

I've tried talking to him about it, and he's not worried he's going to hurt the babies.  Mostly he makes up a bunch of excuses why for "that" time.... he did say he is having some thoughts of me being a 'mother' and not his wife/plaything... which depresses me, I don't want us to not be intimate the rest of our lives

I mean, if it were becaue he isn't attracted right now because my breasts have gotten ginormous or the extra weight I'd almost feel better, because those things will go away after..... this mental thing with us starting and him not being able to finish I know shouldn't bother me, but I feel so worried I'm going to lose him and rejected...

Sounds like the two of you would benefit from talking to a counseling professional.  There's a lack of communication which is triggering some negative thoughts on your part.  Also your partner might benefit from exploring how he is causing his anxiety.  Since this is the first time you have been pregnant and I'm assuming for him too, a.... Read More