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4/1/2008
3:42 pm |
My son just turned 4 in February, and has just began a daycare/preschool for the first time ever in his life. I am working just part time, so he's been going just 1 or 2 days per week for about 4 weeks now. He has never been a very social child- it usually takes him a very long time to warm up to other children, and he does best in smaller groups, but he does love to learn and is very bright for his age. But he is VERY emotional and crying anxiously when we talk about going to his "school". When he knows he has to go the next day, he cries in bed the night before, and the morning of, and the whole way there in the car. And you can see that he's trying NOT to cry, but he can't help it. My 2 year old daughter is going there as well, and she is adapting just fine, but also is much more of a social creature.
So my question is....how long do we let this go on for until we say, OK let's try something else? How would you interpret his amount of crying about it?
Thanks in advance for any advice you can offer!! It's eating me up inside.... |
4/5/2008
9:07 pm |
It can be a very helpless feeling seeing your child cry and not know how to make it all better! You might want to talk with your daycare/preschool about their experience with children who go part-time and children who go full-time. They may know of other children who were in a similar situation and how they learned how to settle in. Do you have any sense of why he is so upset about going to school? How is he when he is actually there? Does he stop crying and enjoy the activities? You might want to see if you could observe him when he is there. Is there anyone at the daycare he bonds with?&nb.... Read More  |
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Michael Barmak, LCSW is a psychotherapist with a specialty in couples counseling
for new parents. As a workshop presenter, Michael speaks on topics including "Finding
the Gold in Your Relationship," "Having a Baby Changes Everything,"
"Sustaining Connection with Your Partner While Parenting" and "Healing
Your Aloneness." 
