Well me and my fiance just had a baby boy and while pregnet I found out hes having another baby in July by somone else. He said she dosent mean anything to him he just made a misstake and he said that infront of both of us and he said he loves me and wants to move on but I dont know how to move on from this. Its been hard to trust him to even go to walmart I wonder if hes ether going over to the other girls house or calling her. My self exsteem took a big nose dive. I have people tell me im pretty or smart but I dont feel it and after this it really afected me. I dont want to brake up and I want to move on but how do I know he wont do this again. I really dont think I can do this again.

Hi gKayla,

For trust to exist between two people both need to be taking personal responsibility for their feelings and their behavior.  On your side of the relationship you need to look at why you are taking your fiance's behavior personally and basing your self-esteem on his behavior.  No one has control over another person's feelings or choices or their self-esteem.  You didn't cause your fiance to decide to have another baby with someone else.  You do have control over whether you feel your true value and worth regardless of y.... Read More