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I was talking to one of the most inspirational people I know this morning on the phone about my recent “leap of faith” into the scary, exciting and unknown of trusting that my public speaking, writing and consulting business will blossom into financial success. As we chatted away I realized that every time I talk to her I learn something valuable about life, about me and about her. The first thing she said to me was how proud she was of me, how much she admired my faith and the way I commit to taking action for positive change in my life. It has become so clear to me that if those around me are not lifting me up they may not qualify to be in my life with such an important title as "friend". I used to be surrounded by so much drama, people that would never say I am proud of you, including my parents. Today nearly everyone close to me is uplifting and supportive and incredibly creative and talented. I realized I have life messengers all around me. Than we began to talk about goals. Hers: to write everyday and have peace in her life; not to live in a state of anxiety. Our goals, she said, change over the years as we age and discover what is really important in life. I could not help but think of my own ever evolving list of goals and how, in the last five years, those goals have required my allowing myself to open up to new experiences, new and wonderfully diverse people, embrace a new level of spirituality and the ability to listen to my own voice instead of the critical voices of others that used to echo from my childhood. My “I don’t need anyone” run-a-way attitude has given way to knowing how much I need those I choose to surround myself with, connect and bond with, like her and all of my other supportive friends, the healthy members of my family and, speaking of goals, my new trainer Mike. I hate going to the gym. Really, I loathe it. But I have to get my 41-year-old body and mind in shape. I need to be, as heard on Inside the Actors Studio, ready for luck to happen. I am committed to taking action, hard work and basically being a go-getter. I know these are important ingredients to success. But I really believe we orchestrate our own luck factor and that it plays so much of a role in life. We can create opportunity, we can seek it out, find it and be right there on the edge and when it finally happens, if we have failed to prepare for that moment physically, spiritually or mentally, luck may slip right through our unprepared fingers. So, with public speaking engagements coming up, book signings in the works and me feeling like it is time to really get out in the world after years of self reflection and healing, I must exercise! Mike put me on a treadmill with weights in my hands yesterday at an incline of 8.0 and a quick pace for 7 minutes. I thought I was going to pass out at 2 minutes. He came up beside me and began to sing a song he made up, in his best jingle/karaoke voice, about my new business venture, my book and than said, “You can do this. You know why? Because you have never given up on anything your entire life. Am I right?” Anyone who knows me knows that quitting isn't exactly my nature. As I panted and groaned I bolstered myself with self talking thoughts like I need a shirt that say’s This Girls Got Potential and I can do this. When I called Andrea this morning, her words of wisdom were confirmation that I was defiantly on the right path. These amazing people coming into my life are an incredible gift. If we can open up and pay attention to our life’s messengers, those who are being brought into our circle, not by chance but by divine design to teach us something and help us grow, are lives would be exponentially richer. And so, just like my birthday wish list that now at age 41 and single has evolved into starting with a tool kit for those home maintenance projects I tackle alone, I re-assessed my list of goals today after hanging up the phone with my beautiful friend. My list begins with nurturing and embracing the five loves of my life: God, Breea, my non-profit organization, writing, and Me. The best part about my new list…I am finally on it!! What is your evolved list of goals and who has been brought into your circle to support and encourage you to achieve them?