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Hi Christine I was recommended to you by my sister Samantha I have a question about the dentist My daughter Olivia just turned 3 on July 2nd and was wondering when is it time to start bringing her to the dentist We brush every morning and every night and sing while we do it she doesn't "love" to do it so I try to make it fun We sing the song from the movie "Grease" brush a brush a brusha Any advice would be great Thanks

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 7/23/08 3:02 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

Aleve for migraines

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My girlfriend is 6 weeks pregnant and suffers from migraines can she take Aleve If not what can she take that won'thurt the baby

Expert Post Viewd: 37 Posted: 6/30/08 11:53 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

babys not sleeping

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My sons going to be 2 in July and at night im worryed that hes not getting enough sleep He still falls off his bed but not as much but for awhile it started about year ago really bad he wakes up in the middle of the night crying and as long as no on bothers him he falls asleep Like last night he woke up for a bit cryed rolled over and looked at me from his bed and smiled Then went back to sleep Well more and more lately hes been needing naps and I try not to give them to him couse I want him to sleep at night and when he takes naps he dont always fall asleep at 9 when I do try to get him to sleep any sudjestions

Expert Post Viewd: 42 Posted: 6/11/08 4:28 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

my boy

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My son will be 2 the end of July and I think hes well ahead but most dont couse he dosent always talk around sertan people mostly in my family He talks up the storm with me he was just out side saying moon and pointing to it I can set out his like four yellow blocks and three green blocks and ask for two yellow blocks and he give me 2 He can turn on and off the computer He dose know how to talk but hes always trying to figure things out and I think thats such a good thing So should I try to get him talking more or not worry about him talking to other people he just likes exspering and I usely let him unless hes exspering something he shouldnt Like one day we had my aunts over and he would rother put together his puzzle then talk to anyone then he went outside and ran around Im just also wondering if theres games I can play also 2 help him learn docs keeps cheaking him couse he has a big head but 2 my belief thats all it is a big head

Expert Post Viewd: 37 Posted: 6/12/08 1:17 am Posted by: Replies: 1

Children and play

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My daughter is 3 1/2 years old She don't go to pre school yet I plan on sending her in September She hardly plays with other children her age I take her to parks zoo shows etc When I take her to the park she will stay right by my side To me she seems to have a shy personality My son is 23 now and was shy too I am a over protective Mom however I want to do what is best for her She gets lots of outdoor and indoor play My inner being tells me she will struggle somewhat when she starts pre school but I do feel she will make her way through without having any kind of long term problems When she does play with children she plays well with them She does play often with adults and by no means do I think this is a subsitute for playing with children I would like your veiws as a expert Do you think I am molding my daughter to be a loner or do you feel I am neglecting her and going to cause her to have social problems

I seem to feel I am doing fine in raising my child but my mother in law that is a 2nd grade teacher seems to think I am doing the wrong thing

Thanks

Rosemarie

Expert Post Viewd: 32 Posted: 6/7/08 4:35 am Posted by: Replies: 1

pacifier

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My son is four months and he loves his pacifier but my older son who be 2 hated it I really liked that couse I did not have to brake my older one from it Is it going to be a big deal if I go ahead and try braking my younger one from them I dont really like them excepcily when I see all the time 2 or 3 year olds running around with them and I just think the sooner the better

Expert Post Viewd: 16 Posted: 6/10/08 9:24 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

premature

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I had my third child 10 weeks early is there anything i can do to help him with his development

Expert Post Viewd: 50 Posted: 5/9/08 11:36 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

immunnization

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i dont want to vaccinate my new born babby i think it is wrong to inject dease in a new born babby will i be able to do that or will i be force to vaccinte her

Expert Post Viewd: 49 Posted: 5/27/08 1:12 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

don't want to play

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My baby girl is 3 months old and she is not interested in toys at all She dosen't want to look at them she dosen't pay attention to them she dosent want to hold or grab nothing She just wants to be held and to walk around with her I am trying to put things in her hand but she dosern't want to grab them I will put her in bouncing chair and she will start to cry ( I will pick her up it's ok and after 5 10 min put her again and she starts to cry) Is there something wrong with her Shouldn't she start to grab or try to grab toys by now I will place her on mat with toys hanging and she dosen't even look at them not even thinking about grabing them

Expert Post Viewd: 134 Posted: 4/25/08 6:45 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

please i need help

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hai I have a six year old son and would like to know what size his penis should be coz am very worried that most kids younger than him look to have a much longer one than his but it gets better when he uses the bathroom pliz help could it also be because he is not circumsised yet i am so worried coz its so tiny

Expert Post Viewd: 99 Posted: 4/12/08 2:02 am Posted by: Replies: 1

child does not sleep in her bed

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My daughter is three years old and sleeps in our bed at night She will sleep in her bed during nap but we are almost done with naps When she was born she had some health problems so i started her in our bed About six months we began her in her crib we started her out crying herself to sleep and within two weeks Then we sold our house and moved in with the in laws We could not let her cry we could not let her make a sound because a sister in law worked graveyard shift So back in our bed she went Now she is three years old and is in our bed We have tried to bring her toddler bed into our room and that worked for two days and then she would get so upset that she would make herself vomit We tried putting her toddler bed back in her room and playing music and waiting till she would fall asleep but that didn't work She would stay awake for two hours and then want to sleep with us Now we have another child on the way and they will be sharing a room Do you think that when this child is born that she will sleep in her bed or what can I do now to get her to do this I don't want her to vomit and choke on it

Also my child can get herself so worked up that she can make her self vomit How do I stop this Is this because she is not getting her way and so she thinks that if she does this that it will get her way How do I stop this

Expert Post Viewd: 226 Posted: 1/29/08 1:44 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

Sleeping Irregular

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I have a 6 month old baby and the last month (at 4 months) he started to wake up every two hours He was sleeping thru the night for two months then like a switch overnight he started waking up SOmetimes every one hour I thught perhaps at first he was growing wanting more milk but now a month later and its not that Some nights I can tell its teething problems and I put in the numb stuff and he goes right back to sleep But I'm afraid he has gotten into a pattern of waking every hour or two How do I stop this I can't get any sleep I tried letting him cry to sleep but he gets really really mad and it wakes him up even more Help

Expert Post Viewd: 159 Posted: 4/6/08 4:57 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

how long to play with a six week old

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I'm a first time parent My little girl just turned six weeks and she sleeps on average 3 hours(4 during the night) When she is awake she is either fussy or sleepy I try to engage in play she doesn’t like the cradle swing with music and butterflies or the moving mobile playing classical music the moment I put her near them she starts squirming and crying She also doesn’t react to the sound of her name said by me even though she responds to other sounds like phone ringing or something falling Sometimes when she’s calm and alert I feel bad if she’s lying and looking at the ceiling without any stimulation When I pick her up she turns her head and looks away and only sometimes she glances at me Is it all normal and how I can start engaging her in play

Expert Post Viewd: 153 Posted: 4/4/08 5:32 am Posted by: Replies: 1

baby care

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Hi I am a single mom and I need to go back to work full time I can't afford babysitter like Merry Popins and in my area there are cheap option like mom with baby taking care of my baby in her home for about 200 /week Or there are few daycare centers for about the same amount Which do you think would be better My concern is thet in day care she (my baby) wouldn't get so much attention becaouse of all the kids and she loves people She practicly stays on my arm all day and when I am putting her down she cries and I don't want her to feel let down But on the other hand they are profesional and mam with kid well is verry experience but that is like hireing teenager as babysitter for older kids But with mom there will be just 2 3 kids counting my SO I am verry confused PLEASE HELP I don't want to leave my baby in first place but economy is forcing me to and since I have to do that I want her to have good care And will she won't forget me Will she still smiles everytime she sees me

Expert Post Viewd: 119 Posted: 4/2/08 10:24 am Posted by: Replies: 1

Potty Training

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My daughter just turned 3 and we are in the process of potty training her we will sit her on the potty for quite a while and still nothing she never pees in the potty its almost like shes waiting until she gets off of it to go We as parents are very new to this and really are lost ive tried talking to other people about how they potty trained their children and really no one talks enough into it Im seriously lost in this situation and the whole family is looking to me to get her out of diapers my only concern is that i am in school most of the day as is her father is there anything that we can do to help us potty train her even with such a busy schedule

Expert Post Viewd: 207 Posted: 1/31/08 11:20 pm Posted by: Replies: 3

2 year old has trouble falling asleep

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Our daughter is 2 1/2 Up until a few months ago she was sleeping well on a schedule from 7pm 7:30am with a nap from 12noon 1:30 For the last few months she has had a really hard time falling asleep at 7pm Lately she just sits in there and talks to herself for about an hour or so before getting quiet We thought maybe she was ready to stay up later because 7pm is pretty early so we were keeping her up to 7:30 but then she was still taking over an hour to fall asleep and was tired and grumpy the next day Should we be keeping her up later Should we scold her for talking quietly and singing when she is supposed to be sleeping or not I make a point of waking her between 7 and 7:30am and getting her up by 1:30pm after nap so she will be able to sleep at bedtime When I go to wake her she is sound asleep and tired Should I be letting her sleep later and then stay up later Not sure what to do Thanks for your time

Expert Post Viewd: 111 Posted: 3/20/08 3:20 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

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my 6 week old

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What age dose baby start sleeping though the night My yongest son is starting to He dosent always wake up for feedings at night well he wakes up 1 a night Is that normal BTw if you need 2 know hes on formula

Expert Post Viewd: 123 Posted: 3/15/08 5:56 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

toys

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what do you suggest for 6 month old toys

Expert Post Viewd: 170 Posted: 2/21/08 12:25 am Posted by: Replies: 1

Swaddling Issues

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Christine

my baby will be 3 months old in 2 days I have been swaddling her for sleep since birth and have had much success she seems to love sleeping while swaddled Lately since she is becoming stronger and bigger she is able to wrestle her hands free and when her hands are by her face she immediately wakes herself and is unable to sleep (cries fusses etc ) Any suggestions on how to either wean her off of swaddling or any other ideas you may have would be much appreciated I do realize that babies cannot be swaddled indefinitely and she is showing signs of recognizing her hands (ie: reaching for things sucking fists) but while she is asleep she is still waking herself up with her hands touching her face I would just like to stop swaddling gradually so as not to create huge sleep problems while while getting her used to sleeping with her hands free

Expert Post Viewd: 214 Posted: 2/5/08 4:32 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

16 month old with temper tantrums

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I really don't know how this behavior just happens but my 16 month old son started having temper tantrums around 13 months If I tell him no (when he slams his hands onto my glass china cabinet) and tell him why he shouldn't do that or when I give him his milk and he throws his binky on the floor and I ask him to pick it up and hand it to me he throws himself on the floor and screams arms going crazy in the air Once I give in and in the above situation get his binky and give him his milk he laughs and is perfectly happy Is this behavior normal in this age group or has he reach the so called "terrible two's" a lot earlier then most I watch super nanny and try to adjust the time out corner for a few seconds at a time when he does this I think he gets he did something hes not suppose to but he either gets more upset and trys to walk away or he laughs at me and thinks were playing a game Everyone says I'm crazy; that he's too young to start to disapline How can I help him to understand "no" means "no"; that it's not a joke He's very smart and I think he is definatly learning to "get his way" already

Expert Post Viewd: 173 Posted: 2/15/08 11:49 am Posted by: Replies: 1

ADD

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My daughter is 5 years old and she is in kindegarten She is failing in class The teacher pulls her out of class 3 times a week and the therapist works with her one on one The teacher has to tell her several times to go line up at the door etc At our house we have to tell her the same thing several times too Its like she hears you but it doesn't register She has had her hearing tested and she hears fine When we filled out a survey and so did the teacher we filled them out and gaveit to her Doctor The symptoms are like ADHD or ADD So he perscribed her some medicane called methylin like ridilin Another name for it I am so nervous about giving it to her because there are so many side affects The most common are not sleeping good at night and loss of appetite WE are getting another opinion soon What do we do SHe won't be 6 until October My mom and dad thinks that she is just a year behind She really didn't talk right away either Could watching too much tv cause ADD Please help Also we have a 4 month old and my mother in law watches her when we are at work and she watches tv most of the time WIll that cause her to have ADD or ADHD She thinks that our 4 month old likes to watch tv THanks so much Lisa

Expert Post Viewd: 179 Posted: 2/7/08 9:58 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

Preschool

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Hello I plan to send my 2 year old daughter to preschol in the fall she will be 33 months My concern is I am expecting another child and the baby is due the end of August right around when preschool would start Do you think this would be detrimental for my daughter

Expert Post Viewd: 177 Posted: 1/29/08 3:37 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

holding her head up

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My daughter is going to be 4 months old on the 25th and she looks down alot She won't hold her head up straight enough yet Just once in a great while then she will put it back down again When she is on her tummy she won't lift her head up very much Do i need to be worried

Expert Post Viewd: 158 Posted: 1/22/08 12:03 am Posted by: Replies: 1

being held

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Me daughter is 4 months old and every time I put her down on the floor or in the swing etc she starts crying She LOVES to be held I can put her in her swing for about 15 minutes then she will get so upset What can we do

Expert Post Viewd: 154 Posted: 1/21/08 7:36 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

My 8 months old Development

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I have a 8 month old son and I was wondering what kind of milestones he could be hitting now and what kind of games and activities I can play with him Im really not sure what kind of things he should be doing and your help would be greatly apprecitated

Expert Post Viewd: 201 Posted: 1/16/08 2:49 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

child custody

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Hi Chrsistina

I am looking for a little advice I have a 4 year old daughter whose father was never really involved in her life when he was briefly it was not so positive and her best interest is not his he became a crack addict although it seems he has struggled with drug use way before I was aware of this he has not seen her in 3 years although a visitation order was in effect sice 04 now he is saying I'm in contempt and i certainly am not he made his own choices there are alot of negative forces behind this mostly his own mother whom herself and his sister all on and off drugs like you blink your eyes i have 4 other children all by the same man who i am back with and he has been in my daughters life from day 1 this is who she knows as her daddy and she bonded with him immediately unlike her biological father there was never a parental bond i know family courts like to give the parent a fair chance but in this unique case how many chances can be given when emotional issues are at the forfront i know hes not taking me to court for himself but more so for his mothers wants she has taken to court also but lost because they reside in the same home how can a person think it is safe or even want to bring a child into such an enviorment that has so so much negativity going on to me this is selfish and would be devasting to my daughter who does not know these people at all this was thier choices in life not mine my choice is to spare my daughter any of this it is not only affecting me but my other children who are well aware of the situation please help

Expert Post Viewd: 224 Posted: 1/15/08 2:03 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

Potty Training Delay

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My son turned 3 in October and he still has no interest in the potty I have gotten him to sit on it a few times but most of the time he gets scared as soon as I go to take his diaper off He doesn't communicate too great either he will tell us when he did go in his pants but not when he HAS to go His grandparents keep pushing the issue by going as far as fighting with us about it or yelling at him for messing his pants I am not sure if I should push the issue on him because I always felt that when hes ready he will let me know If I am right then how do I get everyone else to stop pushing it If I am wrong then what can I do to get him trained on the potty Please help

Expert Post Viewd: 218 Posted: 1/2/08 9:47 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

bilingual children

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I read your answer and it really makes a lot of sense Can you recomend any books and teaching tools already availble to teach spanish thanks

Expert Post Viewd: 205 Posted: 12/22/07 11:09 pm Posted by: Replies: 1