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2/20/2009
3:30 pm |
I have 2-1/2 year old girl that has tantrums when I ask her or tell her to do something. But when the babysitter asks or tells her to do it she does it. What can I do to get this under control? |
2/20/2009
10:35 pm
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Your daughter throws tantrums with you but not the babysitter because she knows and trusts you will love her no matter what - or, she is testing you, maybe because you give in more when she has those tantrums.
When she throws a tantrum, remain calm. Whatever you do, do not give in to her demands or show that her behavior upsets you. Using a quiet, even voice, tell her what she needs to do, and if she refuses to cooperate, tell her what the consequences will be (at 2 1/2, the consequences should be to remove her from the activity, or to leave the restaurant, or otherwise get her out of whatever situation she is in. You can also use time outs. Be firm and clear about your expectations, do not change what you require.... Read More  |
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Debra Gilbert Rosenbergis the author of The New Mom’s Companion: Care for Yourself While You Care for Your Newborn, a guide for first time mothers to help them adjust to the many emotional, relationship, identity, and physical changes that accompany motherhood, published by Sourcebooks, Inc, in April, 2003, and Motherhood Without Guilt: Being the Best Mother You Can Be and Feeling Great About It, a book that helps mothers become more self-accepting and confident about their motherhood, also published by Sourcebooks, Inc, in October, 2004. 
