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potting training

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My son who is almost 8 yrs old will not poop in the pot We have giving him thing when he does Sometime we punsh him he know how he just won't do it It like he doesn't won't to stop doing what he's doing to go We have tried everything we can Please help

Expert Post Viewd: 289 Posted: 6/4/09 4:25 am Posted by: Replies: 1

Trouble with 8yrs boy

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Will not go poop in the pot Well go some times He will not stop doing what he is doing to go poop in the pot Need help

Expert Post Viewd: 268 Posted: 6/5/09 2:55 am Posted by: Replies: 1

Second Nursery

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I am expecting my first baby and am a little concerned in regards to my Moms behaviour We live in separate cities and have so since she moved away when I was 20 We speak or email every second or third day and try to visit one another 2 or 3 times a year I moved to another separate city with my husband two years ago for work benefits We have been married for 10 years I am an only child so this is most likely the first and only grandchild However I recently became concerned when my Mom got upset when we decided to choose our own cot and demanded to see pictures of it She has now recently borrowed a more up market cot from friends in the same wood colour and is beginning to set up a nursery in her own home Her reasoning is that when I fly to visit her I will not have to bring everything with me I had made it clear in the past that I wanted to try IVF one more time approximately 10 months after this birth assuming all was well and therefore would not be travelling anywhere for the next 18 months On Mothers Day this year I received a present and card written on behalf on my unborn son from her Lastly she had promised to take a month off and stay with me close to the due date however now she has decided otherwise and will fly down the day before and wants lessons in nursing a baby from the hospital I am slightly confused and beginning to get very worried Do you have any suggestions in how to handle this as I can see things going very badly from here on

Expert Post Viewd: 283 Posted: 5/26/09 11:05 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

concerned stepmom

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Hi I have certain concerns about a child I really care about… Here is my situation My husband has a 7 year old boys who lives with his mother He comes to our place 3 days/week and sometimes allowed to stay the night on Saturday I have a 1 year old baby with my husband but that little 7 year old and I really get along well and I love him just as if he was my child My concern is with his mother he goes to bed around midnight or 1am when he has to go to school the next morning getting up at 6am He doesn’t want to go to bed earlier with his mom because THEY SLEEP IN THE SAME BED They are going to move houses in a couple of months and she didn’t think it was important to build his own bedroom in phase 1 so it will be another couple of years before he has his own bedroom (and a lot of other rooms are built in phase one it’s a huge house It’s not because it’s going to be tiny )

The child sleeps in his own bed at our place goes to bed around 10pm/10:30pm and he asks to He’s very proud to sleep in his own bed here but he doesn’t do the same in his mother’s house because that’s what he’s used to Really often he has grey patches under his eyes after school because of the lack of sleep and his mother is convinced that he doesn’t need more sleep than what he has because he says that he’s not tired

Now my husband and I are worried about how all that could affect his future and we don’t want to interfere in a way of causing a war between the mother and us for the child’s sake… what can we do How is it going to affect him Is it normal to be concerned

thanks Anita

Expert Post Viewd: 8 Posted: 5/22/09 11:51 pm Posted by: Replies: 0

My 2 year old smears poo out of his nappy

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Hello I hope you can help me

My 2 year old is generally well behaved but in the last month or so has become very naughty which I suppose is just down to his age Yesterday morning I went to get him from his cot and was hit by an awful smell of poo as he had 'painted' it onto the wall next to him all over his cot and thrown some onto the floor he then asked me if I would like to do some drawing

I told him off and put it down to a one off thing Later that day he went for a nap and did the exact same thing again he knows it was wrong as he told me he was naughty as I came into the room I slapped his hand (not hard but so he knew I was cross) and told him in a strict voice that he was naughty and put him in the bath to clean him with the shower hose which he hates I hoped this experience would put him off doing it

Unfortunately this morning he has done it again Last night I put him to bed a in a full body suit that zips up at the front in an attempt to stop him but he has worked out how to unzip it

Can you please tell me how I should proceed in dealing with him over this matter

Thanks

Expert Post Viewd: 288 Posted: 4/26/09 9:33 am Posted by: Replies: 1

son prefers grandma

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I saw that you answered a similar question before but wanted to get your opinion on my situation please my almost 2 year old prefers one person to me my mother in law and whenever she is in town then he will cry if i try to put him down for sleep now pushes me out of his room if i'm the one who comes to get him from his nap she was frequently visiting during his first year of life every 2 3 weeks or so therefore he is very comfortable with her it just really hurts my feelings and i don't know the best way to handle it i don't want to just roll over when she's around and let her take over as she is a pretty dominant personality and this has happened in the past and probably helped the situation arise but i also want to know the best way to handle my own feelings of rejection by my son when she's not around he basically treats his father the same way only wanting me a lot of the times so i'm not getting a lot of support from him about this i wish if this were something that i thought he would outgrow but it's been several months now and he will cry to go to her from me any advice would be helpful we're having another baby in october and i definitely will set more limits on the amount of grandma acting like mom occurs with our next i'm a working mom also and he does not do this it all with his daycare providers who love him dearly thank you

Expert Post Viewd: 306 Posted: 4/5/09 8:42 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

2 1/2 yr old throwing fits when I tell her no

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I have 2 1/2 year old girl that has tantrums when I ask her or tell her to do something But when the babysitter asks or tells her to do it she does it What can I do to get this under control

Expert Post Viewd: 343 Posted: 2/20/09 3:30 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

change her sleep schedule

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Hi my 9 month old daughter is a really good baby she goes to bed around 6h30pm and gets up between 4 and 5am She then has 2 or 3 30 min naps during the day It is almost impossible for me to have a nap in the day so by the end of the day I'm exhausted I am still breastfeeding but now at night I give her 6 oz of formula around 9pm She drinks the whole thing normally doesn't even wake up I thought she would sleep longer that way but no what can I do Is it possible to change her sleeping schedule

thank you very much

Expert Post Viewd: 266 Posted: 2/17/09 10:44 am Posted by: Replies: 1

change her sleep schedule

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thank you very much

Expert Post Viewd: 1 Posted: 2/17/09 10:44 am Posted by: Replies: 0

Only child does not play well with others

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Hello: My beautiful baby girl is 32 months and does not like to play well with others she is an only child which means she did not grow up around any other toddlers plz help me ASAP Jasmime

Expert Post Viewd: 289 Posted: 2/3/09 3:15 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

My baby is suddenly very fussy and sometimes won't nurse

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Where do I begin I feel like I am living a nightmare My 3 month old got her immunizations over a week ago and she had a fever of course She all of a sudden refused to nurse or take a bottle so I attributed that to her shots But took her back to the dr to be sure He said she had a little cold and that maybe she couldn't breathe and that's why she was getting so upset when I tried to nurse but by this time she was taking a bottle just fine So all last week I was having days or episodes where she would nurse fine and times when she would freak out and cry She will nurse on one side and then cry almost inconsolably after that And now she is extremely fussy and cries alot even in the morning I took her back to the dr yesterday thinking/hoping it was an ear infection but it's not He said she might still be getting over her cold or going through a growth spurt I am pumping plenty of milk but I tried to supplement anyway just to see and she didn't want it I just don't understand what happened to my happy content baby And she doesn't seem to be sleeping much during the day either like maybe a total of 2 or 3 hours between 8 am and 5 pm We took her out of daycare and hired a nanny on Jan 5th which is when it seems like this has all started Of course the shots were around that time too I'm on the verge of stopping the breastfeeding and just pumping and give her a bottle but I really don't want to and would like to exhaust all options before stopping I have talked to numerous lactation consultants friends and the dr and can't get an answer and it's wearing me out worrying about why my baby is so fussy and fights me on nursing

Expert Post Viewd: 287 Posted: 1/20/09 5:15 pm Posted by: Replies: 2

Am I Spoiling My Baby

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My 81/2 month daughter will be fine playing with her dad if I'm not in the room but as soon as I walk in or she hears my voice she starts whining for "mama mama" My husband thinks that I'm somehow spoiling her I really don't think that I am Although I am home with her everyday I try not to "coddle" too much but I feel I'm just giving her mommy's love I'm curious to see what you think

Expert Post Viewd: 269 Posted: 1/26/09 2:37 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

Sleeping Techniques

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My daughter is 6 months old and will not sleep through the night Do you have any techniques that might work (because its killing me) I mean I get her belly full she takes a nice bath I try everything I know possible

Expert Post Viewd: 254 Posted: 1/19/09 1:37 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

Nervous at night with newborn baby

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Is it normal to feel intimidated with a new infant during the night time hours I am afraid that I won't know what to do to comfort her when she becomes fussy and I have checked/changed diaper and fed Any suggestions to help me keep my sanity

Expert Post Viewd: 249 Posted: 1/13/09 5:33 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

Are 8mos old supposed to bob head to fall asleep

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My 8mos old son bobs his head on his mattress to go to sleep He is very responsive when you call his name He looks you in the eye when you talk to him He trys to walk when you hold his hands He holds his own bottle and sits up and crawls by himself He doesn't want you to buckle him in the seat he grabs your hands and hold the buckles He does everything at a fast pace I just wanted to know if him doing this was normal He watches tv and he will ignore you if you get in the way of the tv This is just something he started doing the past 3 mos

Expert Post Viewd: 261 Posted: 1/10/09 3:53 am Posted by: Replies: 1

9 week old will only sleep with me

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We have tried everything She will only sleep in my arms during the day and in my bed with me at night We have tried the swing the vibrating bouncy seat the car seat the pack n play with a sleep positioner and the stuffed bear with the sound of the heartbeat and ocean etc I've even tried putting my nursing pads and night shirt next to her in the bed She will fall asleep in my arms and then I will put her down and she will wake up 20 30 minutes later Wide awake I know I need to get her out of my bed but it's so hard because I have to work and I need my sleep Is she too young to let her cry And then what do I do when she wakes up 30 minutes later screaming I can't ever get anything done because I always have to hold her I can't ever go anywhere either because she will start crying in her car seat So forget Christmas shopping Please help

Expert Post Viewd: 319 Posted: 12/15/08 1:03 pm Posted by: Replies: 2

Change in Sleep Habits

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My baby is 11 weeks old and has stopped sleeping the last few days He used to sleep about 10 hours at night he wakes up 2 times to breastfeed and then takes 2 two hour naps during the day The past couple of days he keeps waking up every half hour or so and seem so unhappy I have tried feeding him He will fall asleep but then wake up still before he should be He hasn't been taking great naps during the day either but will then sleep for like 4 hours around dinnertime He was born 8 weeks early so I know he's still a little guy but it is making me nuts not knowing what to do to help him I know he's too young still to cry it out so what can I do

Expert Post Viewd: 279 Posted: 1/1/09 1:17 am Posted by: Replies: 1

Normal behavior for a 4 year old girl

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Recently I was at a birthday party for a 4 year old cousin of mine I brought my 18 month old son with me My aunt the mother of the 4 year old girl suggested we go in the cousin's room and play with the toys My son started to play with the toys and she grabbed them out of his hand saying "no he can't have that " My other aunt tried to play with one of her toy horses and the 4 year old ripped it out of her hand and threw it at her All the while my aunt stood by and said nothing except she hadn't had a nap in 2 days Then I had said to my son "look she has a T V in her room just like you " to which the 4 year old replies " Mine is bigger " But that is not the problem that I had A little later The cousin was sitting in the new jeep she got for her birthday and my son started to climb on her lap and she pushed him causing him to smack the back of his head on the floor I immediately screamed "not nice" to my cousin I was angry My aunt is now trying to say that that is normal behavior for her age and that she doesn't act like that in school so it was probably a fluke thing
I explained to her that children act different in different environments and that she was displaying a selfish bully like attitude She also said that my child getting a lump on his head was normal Sure I think its normal but not if another child causes it
The cousin has also done things in the past similar to this which leaves me to believe that she is a spoiled brat When my son was 1 week old the aunt thought it would be nice for the cousin who was then 2 and a half to hold my son At which time my cousin tried to hit him on the head And again the aunt did not dicipline her for doing this
What I am trying to ask is who is right and who is wrong because I want to settle this with the aunt before Christmas so there won't be any tention
Thank you in advance

Expert Post Viewd: 277 Posted: 12/21/08 10:33 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

two year old boy

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Some one please help i have a two year old boy and i cant get him to stop spitting bitting When it is bed time he cries like no other child i know He has had the same bad time since he was born And its not like he is by his self he has a older brother who is 8 They have a night light in the room so its not that he is scard of the dark I just dont know what to do PLAESE HELP

Expert Post Viewd: 369 Posted: 10/20/08 7:44 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

Impulse Control issues with my 4 year old

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Please help me This is the worst day in all of my 15 years as a mother My youngest son 4 hits and throws things We have been working on this trying to give him more attention and be more firm with our discipline He is in preschool 3 half days a week Last week on our day home together he did something of a violent nature to our dog twice enough to make her yelp I did not see it however but disciplined him for it Today he was outside playing with the water and mud while I worked on the computer Things got quiet and I heard him come upstairs 15 minutes later when I went to check on him I couldn't find him anywhere I called getting desperate but no answer Finally I found him under the covers in my other son's top bunk I knew from his silence and the look on his face that he had done something bad While searching for him outside I noticed that the top had been taken off our turtle pen He has been told not to go into the pen without an adult I then found two of our five turtles out of the pen I found the last one in the pen in the turtle house with the top of his shell broken I was screaming and sobbing I love my turtles and all of our various pets deeply and I was devastated to see one of them injured especially because I knew it was my son's fault I asked him how the shell broke and he told me he threw the turtle I sobbed even harder We have had a house full of animals his whole life and shown him nothing but care kindness and love as the way to treat these animals How could he have done this We rushed to the vet me sobbing him silent and more compliant than he has even been in his whole life The turtle had to be euthanized I tried not to use blaming words and my voice was quiet when I explained it to my son but I let him know that he was the reason that the turtle died and he did a mean bad thing to the turtle that caused him to die When we got home I took him to the pen and gave him a rock and asked him to show me what happened to the turtle just in case he dropped it not threw it He took the rock raised his arm and stopped He said he didn't want to hurt the rock by throwing it I told him that a rock is not alive like a turtle and he wouldn't hurt the rock He threw the rock down pretty hard I took his hand and told him he was having a really long time out in his room and he would be losing some of his favorite toys and movies for a while I feel so broken by this How could I have a kid who would do this kind of thing Will he grow up to be violent and or abusive And what about me I know I should have been paying more attention to him I was just telling another mom yesterday that I realized that he doesn't get enough attention and that could be why he does destructive stuff I know I should have been paying more attention to him Please help me to find a way to forgive him for hurting a defenseless animal Please help me find a way to be a better parent to him He is so different from my two older kids Thank you

Expert Post Viewd: 371 Posted: 10/10/08 9:10 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

In despirate need of some silence

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Dear Dr Rosenberg

My son is going to be 4 years old next year March and has a huge behavour problem He does what any young child would do once a new sibling is introduced into the family i suppose I recently gave birth to a beautiful little girl who is now 5months old and my son loves her to bits He shows all his love by screaming at the top of his lungs and makes a hell of a lot of noise especially when he knows she is asleep Even when she is not around though the problem is not eradicated he is still as noisy and excited as ever He sometimes cries for small things and i know its difficult with not being the only one and the baby anymore but he needs to tone it down a bit His too agressive and plane down wild He doent fight NO but shows his agressiveness in the way he talks and shouts His really a lovable child and very protective of his little sister but his a nightmare to go home to after a 10hour day at work

Please help us tame him down a bit and did i mention his still on daipers

Many thanks

Expert Post Viewd: 382 Posted: 9/29/08 12:08 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

my 5 year old daughter

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hi my name is lashonda and i have a 5 year old daughter named la'zaria she is currently in kindergarden and i was just wondering what to do about her behavior problem in school in her class they have 3 steps green being good and red being bad for the past 6 days she has gotten red faces everyday i have tried everything that i know how to make her act better in school but everyday the teacher is constantly writing a note on her behavior chart saying she is either not paying attention or she is getting out of her seat i am wondering what to do i have tried taking the things she likes away but that doesn't seem to be doing any good do you have any advice for me on what more i could try or if i should take her to see a behavior doctor to get her tested for ADHD i mean she is a very smart child but she just doesn't act the way i know she should act

Expert Post Viewd: 343 Posted: 9/18/08 12:16 am Posted by: Replies: 1

my 5 year old daughter

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cry in his crib

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My 9 months old baby boy does not want to sleep in his crib Starting from last week when I put him into the crib he just cries and cannot stopping crying He has to sleep with us

When I held him up he immediately stops crying or even smile I had tried several time to leave him alone but he just cannot stop crying for over 10 mins

why and how to deal with his behaviours

Thanks

Expert Post Viewd: 376 Posted: 9/16/08 1:21 am Posted by: Replies: 1

Day/night mixup

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My girl is almost 4 weeks old she sleeps alllll day and only wakes crying for a feeding and diaper change When it comes to the evening she seems wide awake she eats ALOT more and wont settle down to go to sleep

AHHHHH any advise for helping her get on more of a schedule and should she be sleeping that much during the day It is impossible to keep her up

Thx

Expert Post Viewd: 336 Posted: 9/15/08 3:28 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

8 yr old behavior problems

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my 8 year old son has been in school for only 3week and has been to the office 2 time within 2weeks i have tried everything what should i do

Expert Post Viewd: 318 Posted: 9/10/08 9:28 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

7 month grand daughter afraid of baths

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My 7 month old grand daughter has never enjoyed her baths From getting them in the kitchen sink to getting them in the baby bath Now she is too big for either of these We have begun giving her a bath in the tub However as soon as we get into the bath room she gets upset We have tried leaving a shirt on and my daughter has tried getting into the bath with her Nothing seems to work we have alsop tried distracting her and putting toys in the yub All she does is scream LOUDLY Any suggestions

Expert Post Viewd: 356 Posted: 8/14/08 11:41 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

10 with serious mental issues

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My 10 year old son has severe asthma The last two years he has changed drastically he lies about everything he bullies his 3 year old sister and makes his 9 mth of brother cries for know reason He gets angry because he can't do certain things other kids do because of his asthma he talks about hurting hisself and he's tried to hurt himself recently I think alot of his problems has to due with his illness but i'm lost for words He been waking up out of his sleep saying he's seeing and hearing things even when he's not sleep for over a year Recently I've gotten a referral for counseling for his pcp because I don't know what else to do The other thing I fail to mention is that he also has severe allegies and is allergic to everything under the sun except dogs and cats Did I do right thing by seeking counseling

Expert Post Viewd: 373 Posted: 8/12/08 11:27 pm Posted by: Replies: 1

very fussy

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My daughter is 10 months now and she is soooooo fussy She always wants to be held I have recently changed formula from similac lactose free to meijer infant formula milk based She seems to be doing fine with it Could it be that the formula is not agreeing with her or is she teething Her gums do look swollen She is not throwing up her formula or anything Thanks Lisa

Expert Post Viewd: 395 Posted: 7/27/08 1:22 am Posted by: Replies: 1

Can there be too much pretending

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Our daughter will be 3 at the end of this month Over the past few months she has been pretending that she is a different book/TV character or a relative/friend She will pick somebody and give my husband and I a name and then absolutely insists that we call her by the made up name She gets upset to be called by her real name She will announce to strangers at the store or wherever that she is "Clifford" or cousin "Jacob " My husband was concerned that this is increasing to where she is constantly pretending she is someone else Is this a normal stage or is it possibly a problem that she is pretending that much Should we just play along with her Is there anything to be concerned about Thank you

Expert Post Viewd: 359 Posted: 8/3/08 3:27 pm Posted by: Replies: 1